- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I would love your advice. I feel like i’ve lost my best friend, and don’t know what to do about it.
Some background info:
My best friend and I have known each other since we started college four years ago. Every year we’ve gone on vacation together and tell each other just about everything. (Her dad is super protective, so it’s always been an ongoing joke that I’m the only “good” friend her dad approves of). Despite different majors and different groups of friends, we were always an escape from the crazy college world, we fit into each other’s real worlds. (If you know what I mean).
Ouch #1 Maid/Matron of Honor had a rough summer with her boyfriend. He didn’t treat her well, and she knew I wasn’t fond of him. He didn’t even make an effort to get to know me because i’m not the type to get wasted at bars with them. When they broke up I didn’t leave her side for days. When they got back together, she waited a week to tell me. I was heartbroken. I would have supported her no matter what, but she didn’t even tell me.
Ouch #2 We talked it out, and everything was great. Now, only a year away, I actually started to plan my wedding. (yay!) I showed her a photo of these cool lanterns that I found and wanted to use as centerpieces. Her only response was, “That’s what you want for your centerpieces?” and “Oh.”
Ouch #3 She and I are both seniors in college now. As we started our semester, we started to talk less and less. She was always busy with her boyfriend and stopped being interested in our conversations. She even ignored a few phone calls and texts. Which upset me, so I sort of stopped trying to contact her.
Ouch #4 I gave it one more shot and asked her to come wedding dress shopping with me. She couldn’t make it, she wanted to go watch a WVU football game. While shopping, I find my dress and I’m extatic to tell her. The next day she says, “So you found your dress?” and that was all she said about it. She didn’t ask what it looked like, where it came from, how the experience went. Nothing. She wasn’t even excited for me. (Meanwhile, other friends [who aren’t even in the wedding party!] are gushing with excitement and want to know everything.
I’m confused and heartbroken. Do you think it’s something I did? What can I do to mend this? Basically, I have a maid of honor I barely even talk to. How is that supposed to work out? 🙁