- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I am at a very strange crossroads bees. *sigh* not sure what to do.
To give you a little background my FI and I have chosen our best friend (lets call him “Abe”) to be our officiant. Abe has been my best friend since I was 10, and has been close with my FI for 7 years. He is very elloquent when he speaks, and I feel like he would do an amazing job. Also I like having the idea of a friend performing the ceremony because it would more personal for the two of us. Further more FI and myself are not religious people, so I would just not feel right about having a minister do the deed.
where things get off
Abe has been in love with me since we were in high school. It is something that everyone knows but doesnt talk about. We have always tried to not let it affect our friendship, and he has come to terms with the fact that I am with my FI and love him more than anything. He has always been very adult about the situation and left it be. I never thought this would affect our wedding, and had complete confidence in his ability to push things aside. until now.
The last few months he has been awkward. When Abe drinks his feelings come out again. I am in a horrible position now. FI and I have already asked him to officiate our ceremony, and he agreed. I am considering taking back the request now that things are coming to light. I feel it would be cruel torture to do it to him, and I just dont think it would be a good idea.
But how do I tell him that it is no longer required of him? What is an appropriate way to bring this up? I just feel so awkward about the whole situation. Help me bees.