Post # 1
My Best Friend in the whole wide world since we were in middle school passed away in June 2010 @ 20yrs old in a car accident. I’m getting married in August and I would love to do a lil something in her memory. We’re having a full on Catholic mass and I was talking to Fiance last night I was thinking about taking the opportunity after communion on the mediation song to have our singer sing a song in her memory or maybe even a song after the mediation song. Well Fiance shut me down and said our priest wouldn’t let me because he said the song wouldn’t have a religious significance in the wedding. I got a lil annoyed with him. I have no idea why he thinks I wouldn’t talk to the priest first to make sure it would be ok. I feel pretty confident the priest would let me do what I wanted to in this situation, he has known me since I was 5 or 6 and has let me slide on a few things already. Anyway I need a list of song ideas for this I’ve looked and haven’t really found anything that fits the situation. If the song idea is a bust do y’all bees have anyother ideas for this situation?
Post # 3
A friend of mine had her wedding last year. Her sister had passed the year before. Each of the girls carried a flower (I think it was a red rose) with their other flowers. Then at the end of the asile walk they all individually put their flower in a vase that had a sweet poem etched on it.
I thought it was cute. They also had in the program the significance of each person carrying the flower.
Post # 4
@MrsDPal811: I’m sorry for your loss. I read a similar post, and someone had a Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquet made in her honor. Another had a photo in a locket in her bouquet. Because your day is a celebration, I would not do a song-that is something to do at a memorial. Keep your day as positive, and about you and your FH. 🙂
Post # 5
You could do something at the reception instead… maybe include her photo in the program or designate her an honorary bridesmaid? Could you light a candle/have a moment of silence or prayer before the meal/set out a nice framed photo of her/etc..?
Post # 6
@creativeplannertobee: I agree. I like PP’s idea with the vase and flowers.
Post # 7
@mandigrl04: That is a super neat idea but I’m not having any bridesmaids. I was the Maid/Matron of Honor at my friends wedding and I had always planned that she would be mine, I have other friends I could have asked to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but I’m not close to any of them as much anymore so I asked my Future Sister-In-Law. I thought about having something tied into my brooch bouquet that way I could have a lil something with me all day but I’m not sure what I would do even then?
Post # 8
I’m having small photos on wire stems included in my bouquet for my Aunt whom I lost last year to cancer, my grandparents and FI’s grandfathers.
In this situation I would consider having a larger photo displayed near where I would be standing so she could be next to you on your special day. I might also do something like light a candle and include wording in the program indicating that the photograph or candle were in her memory and that she was still maid of honor regardless of whether she’s here or in heaven.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry 🙁
I’m ordering little photos charms to hang from my bouquet from Etsy to carry with my grandparents photos in (they have all passed)…I think I’ll have larger photos somewhere too on a table with a nice verse.
Post # 10
I’m sorry for your loss, I wouldn’t know what to do if my best friend was taken from me =/ Something I saw at the last reception I went too was very sweet. It was this huge hall and on the walls, they had pictures which were projected and it would cycle from one image to the next. Maybe if this is something you can do, you can have pictures of you with your best friend to honor her and include her in your special day. *hugs*
Post # 11
You could have a nice photo of her that you carry with you, and in the moments she would have been with you (getting ready, bridesmaids photos etc) you can make sure her photo is captured somewhere in the shot.
Post # 12
@MrsDPal811: I, too, am deeply sorry for her loss. Here are a couple of other ideas for including her in the liturgy:
– include a mention of her by name in the Prayers of the Faithful, something along the lines of “For all who have died, especially (name), (name), and (name,) the grandparents of the couple, and (friend’s name), (Bride)’s closest friend and honorary bridesmaid. May they know the peace and fullness of eternal life with God.” (Tailor to include whatever other deceased family members you would wish to.
– was your friend Catholic and did she have a saint’s name or (if you happen to know) a patron saint or Confirmation name saint? You might ask your priest to mention that saint in the Eucharistic prayer in memory of her, or if you are using the Litany of the Saints in your wedding liturgy you might include that saint’s name
– some Catholic weddings include a visit to the Lady Chapel/statue of Mary where the couple says a prayer and leaves a little bouquet of flowers, lights a candle, etc. while a song is sung. Maybe you could light a candle for her during this part of the liturgy. Or, depending on the length of the song, couples sometimes also give their mothers a rose after the Mary visit, or set out roses for deceased grandparents, etc. You might set out a flower for her at this time.
Hope those are helpful, and I wish you a beautiful and meaningful wedding!
Post # 13
@KCKnd2: My friend wasn’t catholic but I’ll ask our priest if he can mention her in the prayer of the faithful. We will also be giving a bouquet of roses to the Virgin Mary and I love the idea of giving a flower or lighting a candle in her honor when we do that.
Thank you ladies, her loss was devestating. I still think of her everyday and am pretty close with her parents. I see them pretty often and they love my daughter. I got pregnant a month after her passing so I like to think God took my best friend but sent me a lil piece of her in my daughter. Fiance was my rock during that difficult time and he is still my go to guy when I’m feeling blue. I’ll have a lil something on my bouquet in her memory and I definitely love the picture idea that @metalbride gave. I will definitely be incorporating quite a bit of these ideas into my wedding. 🙂
Post # 14
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have a similar situation which may help you. A dear friend of mine, who is also my FI’s best friend, passed away a month ago due to a rare illness. In lieu of favors (we’ll still have something small but not spend too much on them), we are making a rather sizeable donation to the charity of the illness he had, in his name. On the tables at the reception we will have small cards at each place setting stating such. Since he was a big part of our lives, and of the lives of many of our guests, we felt we should pay tribute in some way. Maybe you can donate to a charity that your friend was passionate about or if there has been any kind of scholarship set up in her name. Best of luck to you and again, my condolences.
Post # 15
I got sunflowers in my boquet. FI’s mom and my moms favorites. I’ll have a vase at the reception that says, these flowers might be the brides, but the sunflowers represent how Mr Giraffe and Mrs Giraffe got here. By their mothers.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
This is in our programs:
We’d like to thank our family for all their love and support which made us who we are, and brought us to this special day.
…Our friends, with whom we experience life’s joys, and whom we hope will be part of our lives throughout the years to come.
…And those whose memory we forever preserve in our hearts.
(list of names)