(Closed) Best friend pregnant… Feeling down.

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I have had baby on the brain for the past few months, and right now is just not a good time to start trying…makes me sad, and its very frustrating. 

Sending you good vibes, but you’re allowed to throw pity parties now and then!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Danish_Student: Totally understandable. It’s hard to feel joy for a friend when it’s such a sore subject for you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

aw. I’m so sorry you are feeling down. Does your friend know you have been TTC? I think you should first be completely, crazy, ecstatic for her then maybe in a couple weeks when the newness of it all has died down talk to her separately about how down you are that you are not expecting yet. But in no way tie in to the fact that her being pregnant makes you sad.
I think it’s completely normal to feel a little down when you find out others are pregnant during TTC. We have ALL been there. But I think the important part is to give yourself the pity party then leave it and be HAPPY for your best friend in the whole wide world! This is a special time for her and you should be there for her. If the roles were reversed would you not want her to be happy for you as well?

But anyway, hugs, month 7 was definitely THE hardest for us as well. My period was late for the first time ever and we were both convinced the first POAS would result in a BFP.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

What you are feeling is normal , it seems like you are still being an awesome friend regardless if it being hard for you – kudos ! I am sending positive vibes to you and your hubbys “shtuff” 😉 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I really hope you feel better.  Eventually, you’ll be able to be happy for her, but right now take some time for you to process it all so that you can truly be a supportive friend when you’re able.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If she is your best friend then I think a frank discussion is in order. Yes she might get a little emotional, but if it is honestly bothering you then she needs to know it. I know if the shoe were on the other foot my best friend and I would be open about it. I understand that this is an exciting time for her, but maybe sequeway into your problem and start it from there.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Danish_Student: Right now, you’re giving 100% to her feelings and 0% to your own. I think a discussion, worded as delicately as possible, is in order.

If she is truly your friend, she will understand where you’re coming from and not take it personally.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Danish_Student: And she will be overly emotional with the pregnancy. Is she aware that his test results were not good? Maybe talking to her about the disappointment there will help turn the talk to where it needs to go. And when you do talk to her make sure she understands jsut how happy you are for her, but frustrated about your own situation.

When my best friend was getting married I was happy for her and crying inside because I could never seem to find anyone. We ended up having a really long talk one night. I told her I always felt like the third wheel since it was always them and me. I was envious of her and told her so. She understood and once it was out there then it made things a little easier for me jsut knowing that she understood how I felt.

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