(Closed) Best Friend Problems…Need Advice/Vent

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll:
    You are being a bitch : (4 votes)
    50 %
    You're feelings are justified : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Somewhere in between : (2 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    She is getting married soon?  Before you, or after you?

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @prettypincushion:  Hello there! First thing’s first: While you can still edit your post, I would suggest you add spaces in between paragraphs so that your post is easier to read. Everything runs together when they are that long. 

    On to the help: I understand where you’re coming from. I had a friend I knew since 2nd grade do the same thing. She barely made time for her friends after she started dating certain people, and it hurts when you take a back seat to significant others. My advice is to talk to her about how you feel, and tell her you feel short changed by her shift in plans. Tell her you went out of your way to see her, and you feel badly that the plans are falling through, because you care for her so much. The key thing is to talk about how YOU feel, rather than what she is doing “wrong.” If you come at her and tell her how crappy you think this is on her part, she will get defensive and not hear what you have to say because she feels attacked.

    Keep it simple, and make it about your friendship. Let her know you’re feeling bummed that she isn’t keeping the plans, and ask her if perhaps she could reconsider. 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Actually I find everyone is like this when they first fall in love. Try not to take it personl, it’s not that she does not want to see you she just does not want to leave him. It sucks yes, but if you are happy for her just focus on her happiness and things will even out after a time. I’m sorry your feeling let down.

    Post # 6
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    1141 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    You need to adjust you poll to add a middle ground, I can’t vote for either of those 🙂

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