Post # 1
*insert SCREAM here*
So one of my best friends is one of my bridesmaids…I wouldn’t have it any other way. Out of the 6 BM’s she’s been the most excited and involved.
My dress was sent to her house on monday….
WELL….Sat night we had a huge Easter parter/bonfire here at my farm where a LOT of alcohol was conssumed and she and my FI had some words…it’s a long story, it’s both their faults, to much alcohol was drank and I myself and over it, and FI has apologised to her a million times but she is pretty pissed off, and says she was pretty close to opting out of the wedding.
Well She was OK with me…but has hardly spoken to me all week. She did post the delivery slip picture on her FB for my dress to show me, but has yet to respond to me on WHEN she’s going to actually bring me my dress.
Im so heart broken over it all, because she was the one I could go shopping with, and do our DIY projects with and have the most fun and excitement.
Things were said that shouldn’t have been said, my FI feels horrible, but in his defence he TRIED to just go to bed to advoid it, but she followed him.
DRAMA and from my least dramatic friend at that. I see both sides, and feel stuck. I’m not going to obviously NOT marry my FI, but I also want my BFF involved and I want things back to the way they were this time last week.
oh and I want my DRESS dammit!
This whole wedding has been so full of ups and downs, my poor heart can’t take it anymore, just when things look up and going great something kicks me in the box!
ok vent over….ugh.
Post # 3
Maybe you should go pick up the dress instead of waiting for her to bring it to you? I would say just let things cool off for a while because it sounds like your friend is being unreasonable (granted, I don’t know what they fought about), but some cooling off time might make her come to her senses.
Post # 4
Just go to her and get your dress. If she’s that mad at your FI, she probably doesn’t want to get anywhere near your house for the time being.
Post # 5
I think you need to give her a little bit of time. Your wedding isn’t until August, so it’s not like you need your dress right this second. Give her until the end of the week to calm down over all of this and then go and talk to her…in person. I’m not sure what was said, but it’s clearly enough to hurt her pretty badly. You have to let her get over this in her own time.
Post # 6
People handle confrontation, anger, and hurt feelings differently, so maybe her response is to just give it time and ride it out. However, if this was happening to me, I am not like that and need to fix things head on and would want to talk through it with her until it’s resolved.
Either way, it may still take a bit of time for everything to get back to normal. If apologies were given, there’s not much else to do at this time.
Maybe as PP suggested, go over to her house to get the dress, and have one of your craft nights there. Then you can talk some more if appropriate and privately. I know when I’ve been hurt, sometimes I just need to talk through it a couple times, hear that other people support me and want me in their life (regardless if I was in the right or wrong). Maybe she just needs reassurance as to why your FI said some of the things he did…even if he was out of line, there’s has to be some reasoning as to why he would say those things. Was he frustrated with her about something else and it blew up when alcohol was involved, was he just saying thing b/c she was attacking him, etc.?
It may take a little time, but if she really is a best friend, she will move past the drunken fight, and be happy for your wedding.
Post # 7
Thankfully things are STARTING to look up. She has admitted to me that she just feels kinda depressed, I figure it’s from the fight. I know she’s not herself. She received her bridesmaid dress yesterday and she didn’t even try it on, which is SOOOO not like her. BUT we are going shoe shopping tomorrow and I hope that puts us back on track. I totally understand her hurt feelings, and I feel horrible, I love her to death. I also love HIM to death and this is MY wedding. So hopefully she can get past this, or be honest and back out of the wedding, because as my best friend if she goes on the next 4 months down in the dumps and depressed about the wedding it’ll just ruin it for me. It’s a sad situation, but it’s still my wedding and the most important day of my life.
So lets just pray that tomorrow helps spark her excitement again.
Post # 8
I would go pick up the dress, and hug her and tell her you love her, and then let time take care of the rest.