Best friend's BF is going to propose and the ring is awful. :-(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I tell him my real opinion?
    Keep your mouth shut!! : (192 votes)
    76 %
    Speak up, buttercup!! : (61 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Don’t worry. Worst case scenario she comes to you saying she hates the ring and you help her think of something to tell him. don’t say anything!

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    btw: chocolate diamond?????? it’s the color of poop!!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I wouldnt say anything. the worst that can happen is she hates the ring they get a new one and she can have a bangin chocolate diamond necklace!

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @conflictedbf:  If its a ring coming from the man she loves, she will like it.. If she doesn’t that’s up to her don’t butt in! The only time it would’ve been okay to say something would’ve been before the ring was being made..

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @conflictedbf:  I wouldn’t say anything, just let them work it out, and if she comes to you afterwards you can give her advice. Yikes, that sounds ugly though!

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Why was he texting you this?  To get your opinion?

    My rule is….I keep my mouth shut until I’m outright asked to give my opinion and if you ask for it…..you’re gonna get it.

    If he wants to know what you think – TELL HIM.  Otherwise you’re going to have to sit this one out.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @bebero:  I actually think chocolate diamonds are beautiful! So to each their own I guess 🙂

     

    @conflictedbf:  I agree with PPs – don’t say anything. You never know, maybe she’ll love it. If she ends up hating it and tells you this, then step in and help her figure out a way to tell him. I do hope she loves it though! I totally get that it may not be her style but I don’t think that the ring that you described sounds horrible (that is without seeing a picture). Let us know how it goes! 

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    This is none of your business, I would stay out of it.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @conflictedbf:  I wouldn’t say anything to him.  Wait for her to confide in you about the ring.  She may not love chocolate diamonds (I just google imaged them – ummm, not for me!), and she may or may not love the setting, but perhaps when she finds out it belonged to his parents or that he custom designed the ring, the sentimental part may out weigh anything else (although, using the diamond from your divorced parents isn’t exactly the sentiment I would be going forFoot in Mouth).  I’ll admit the ring I always thought I wanted – when I went to try it on, didn’t suit me.  And even once I found something I was for sure I would like after that – it too didn’t suit my hand.  The ring I ended up with is a bit different than I originally thought I would like, and I absolutely love my ring!

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I can’t imagine having a huge honking brown diamond as a center stone. I have some idea that his father went to buy an ering, his mother had said I want a big rock! He tells the jeweler his budget and is shown a tasteful array of half carat or smaller white diamond erings, which he nervously thinks arent big enough. The jeweler shows him some 1-3 ct white diamonds and he nearly faints at the price. The jeweler goes, well I do have a 4ct diamond in your budget BUT – and the father says I’ll take it. The jeweler shows it to him – and how many guys care or know anything about color – and he walks out thinking he got the biggest best ering in the world for a steal. 

    Maybe the mother was thrilled with – but maybe not. Might be a question for him to ask dear old mom. Seems like they were happy to give him the diamond to use which may indicate something.

    I agree that a 4 carat stone is going to look like costume jewelry – brown or not – but the brown color for an center stone ering would certainly be a major faux pas for many. I figure they have to get pretty creative on the setting for such a large stone and I doubt it’s dainty or traditional!

    If you think you honestly know she will hate it, maybe gently ask if he is sure she likes brown diamonds – get his wheels turning. Otherwise just wait till the proposal and be ready to eitherAbe thrilled with her or ready to put your heads together to fix the issue about the ring (but really her being happy with HIM is the really important thing.)

     

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would probably freak if DH had given me a 4.8ct chocolate diamond–in a GOOD way! I think it’s one of those things you don’t know you love until it’s on your finger!

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Keep it on the down low. Maybe she doesn’t know the proposal is coming?? But if she does you never know, maybe she will flip out and LOVE that chocolate diamond to death. For his sake I hope she does. He feels confident enough to show you the ring so he must be very proud and very excited to propose with this diamond. I am sure the both would like it to be a surprise. I know I would be surpised-in a awesome way!!

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