- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
uhhhhh i think you need to stand by your man on this. this is quite preposterous and rude.
Her FI sounds like a douche. I wouldn’t go to a wedding that my husband was forbidden to attend.
My husband comes first and I would not attend any wedding that he was excluded from.
I do agree I would never leave my husband I dunno how to break the news to her though.
I’d simply tell her that you were sorry her FH felt that way and that unfortunately you will not be able to attend.
I have to agree with everyone else. If my husband is not welcome, then neither am I.
Stand by your husband. There is no way your friend’s FI should be able to have you help out and be there to see them get married without inviting your husband too. I think anyone planning a wedding knows that you can’t invite a person without their “other half”.
I guess I can kind of see why her FI wouldn’t want him there, but I still think too bad. Your husband is married to YOU now anyway, he’s clearly not going after your friend anymore! He’s going to have to be grown up about this and either invite both of you or neither of you (of which the latter does not sound like a reasonable option)
@StarBadAzz: very simple. and don’t forget, your friend is complicit in this, whether or not she is blaming it all on her husband to be.
“i very much want to attend your wedding, and it breaks my heart that i will be unable to do so, but i just can’t do that to my husband.”
you don’t need any “i hope you understand”s or apologies. this girl is just as much to blame.
Wasn’t there a post that was similar to this one recently but the complete opposite? I.E. the bride wanted to invite her friend but not the friend’s husband b/c they had dated previously? I believe the advice for that one was you invite them both or not at all. I think the same thing applies here, and I agree with the PP’s.
Thanks everyone! I though I was being selfish for standing up for my husband. Now I do understand that I should not be to blame.
@StarBadAzz: I would not attend a destination wedding my husband wasn’t able to attend. SOunds like because it s DW that you would be staying the night over somewhere (if not a couple nights) I don’t think its realistic for your friend to ask you to go without your husband. If your friend wants you there then she needs to make it clear to her FI that he’s being a douche.
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