(Closed) Best idea for bachelorette (hen do in England) ???

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What would be best?
    Have a Mother/sister/daughter day instead of hen party and hope girls won't be offended : (1 votes)
    25 %
    Don't have a Hen do just a shower the day before the wedding and hope girls won't be offended : (0 votes)
    Plan a Hen do that is under £150 and hope for the best! : (2 votes)
    50 %
    Other (please state) : (1 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee

    I say do the spa day with your mum and sister, but invite everyone. Expect no one to come, and tell them you appreciate it’s a lot of money, but that it would be nice if they could make it. no pressure. That way you get something nice, but no one feels bad that they’ve not been invited.

    I’m in a similar position – I live in Brighton, my friends are in Manchester and his family (girl cousins) are in Milton Keynes. I’m doing a day thing in London (max £50) so people can get cheap train tickets to get there and don’t have to worry about accommodation.

    From what I’ve seen by Hen’s, people prefer NOT spending loads if they have to travel for your wedding a month or so later.

    It’s a nightmare! And nice that you’re having a bridal shower – I’ve never heard of having one in England – jealous!

    Post # 5
    Member
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    If the ladies you are inviting to your shower are the same ones as your hen do, then I would leave it as that as (as you said) it’s not the norm to have two events here and if they are buying you lingerie and coming to another event, i reckon they will see that as a hen do type activity.  Then you could just have the spa day with just your mum and sister.

    I personally don’t like being away for the whole weekend so much prefer hen dos that are one day/evening, but I do always try to go if I’m invited as I think it’s an honour (albeit it can be very expensive!!). 

    Post # 6
    Member
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    PS I wouldn’t try to join the stag do unless your fiance has suggested it and realllly means it!! I have been to one joint one before and it was amazing, but it is what they both wanted!

    Post # 8
    Member
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    As someone who had 4 weddings to attend last year and 4 again this year, all at least 500 miles away from where I live, I would say try and keep costs low. We managed to organise a hen weekend for £150 pp including accommodation, entertainment (Adonis Cabaret!), food and a lot of the drink. It took some research but it was doable and didn’t seem budget. Plus if you can leave a bit of time between the hen and the wedding then that helps your hens spread the costs. But be prepared that some people may be in a similar position to me with crazy wedding seasons so won’t be able to make it.

     

    Alternatively, I’m actually planning something slightly different in that we’ll have our wedding where we live which is Aberdeen and most people are from the south so I’m contemplating suggesting that people travel up a couple of days before the wedding and we do my ‘hen’ stuff a few days beforehand. That way, people don’t have to pay twice for travel and they can make a bit of a holiday out of it since many haven’t been up this way before…

    Post # 10
    Member
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @EnglishWifey:  ah ok, yeah it’s difficult when everyone has booked their travel already. Are you planning a trip home before your wedding? A night out or a meal at home may be an option if the majority of people are already there? Just a ‘send you on your way’ sort of thing. I would still do the spa with your mum and sister as that’ll be a nice intimate thing for you guys as a family.

     

    one of my friends didn’t have one hen do but rather lots of meals with different groups of people as and when people could get together. That suited her and it was actually nice in that our group of friends could get together and chat with no ‘you had to be there’ moments as there is sometimes when you mix different friend groups

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