Post # 1
so the best man is my fiances brother. We have never gotten along, but he is being exceptionally rude beginning yesterday and we had an argument. I really can’t stand him or his girlfriend, and feel nervous about him giving the toast. Should I tell the dj to not let him and just not have a toast. I am so angry at him right now, and with a valid reason.
Post # 3
I think thats kinda jumping the gun… yes he might be expceptionally rude but have you sat down and had an adult conversation calmly and diplomatically?
You might be angry but its your fiance that has asked him to be best man, what does he think? I think you cant make that decision by yourself. It might be a bit rash.
Post # 4
I’m guessing a week before the wedding you’re being a big of a stressed out maniac and the best man was being a little rude and everything just blew up. I’d take a deep breath and just move on. If he brings it up, just say, “sorry i’m super stressed”, give him a pat on the back, and fuggetaboutit.
But you can’t just refuse him his toast…that’s not your call. You may not get along, but you can at least try to be cordial and be the bigger person–he is your FI’s brother. Somebody has to concede