Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
We are about a month out from the wedding now and we just found out that our best man can’t make it. He is in the military like my fiancé and his superiors keep denying his request for leave. At this point he wouldn’t be able to come without going AWOL so it looks like he won’t be able to be there. The programs are already printed up and his name is listed under best man. We are also going to have one more bridesmaid than groomsmen which bothers me a little bit but nothing to freak out about.
Has anyone else running to a situation like this? Did you change the programs or switch anything around to accommodate that change? My fiancé is understandably a bit upset that his best friend isn’t going to be there but there’s nothing we can do about it.
Post # 3
Awe hun! People will understand, I don’t think you need to reprint, grab someone to join the party and bump #2 up to #1.
This sucks so much but welcome to military life. 🙁
Post # 4
Eesh… when we had our formal wedding, my husband applied for leave [He is in the Navy] probably around 2-3 months beforehand before the June schedules had even been thought about.
Turns out that the two weeks he applied for (and was approved) were blackout weeks that no one is supposed to be able to leave during. They tried to deploy him two weeks before our wedding (He deploys for 3 weeks at a time.)
When we got JoP married, he was called in to deploy the morning of our wedding. I remember him saying, “Sir, I’m getting married today.” and the response was, “Not today you’re not.”
Thankfully he found someone to take his deployment for him…
The military life is a blessing and a curse sometimes. My sympathies to your SO.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t reprint. Have someone make an announcement that you’re missing him, but he’s there in spirit.
Post # 6
@dancingriss: I agree 100%. The officiant can make a short and sweet announcement, with respectful wording about serving our country, and no one should object of have a problem with that.
I wouldn’t worry about the uneven numbers. A groomsman (or two) can have two bridesmaids on his arm. It’s cute, not anything to stress about.
We may be in a similar predicament. We’re waiting to find out if our “groomschick” can be at the wedding; she’s a military spouse and they’re stationed in Italy. That’s the reason I haven’t printed our programs yet.