Post # 1
Please put my mind at ease. The tuxes that I picked out cost about $160. They are exactly what I want, and I don’t feel I should have to compromise. FI’s best man said that they were pricy and we should look elsewhere. First of all, I think it’s really rude to be in someone’s wedding and try to tell them where to get their tuxes. Second, I feel that the cost of the tuxes is relatively average, and that he shouldn’t have agreed to be in the wedding if he wasn’t willing to agree to the financial side of it. I just don’t think they are all that expensive!
Post # 2
Your fiance should ask him what he thinks is reasonable, and pay the difference.
Post # 3
That’s about what I spent on the dress for the last time I was a bridesmaid. Plus the flight to the wedding, and accessoris. I don’t know about tux prices though. I do think it’s rude for his to say that. He could have handled the situation much differently.
Post # 4
Ours are 150..and that is with a 40% discount.
Post # 5
Can you help him pay for it since you say it isn’t expensive? What’s expensive to one person might not be for the other. Anyone in our bridal party that said they couldn’t afford something we at least paid half the expense.
our tuxes were $200 but we did pay $100 towards one of the groomsman. Even though ours were a similar price I’ll agree that is quite a bit for a RENTAL.
Post # 6
KristenD9: Ours is about the same– if its men’s wearhouse make sure you find one of their $40 off each tux coupons
Post # 7
aussiemum1248: That’s not a bad idea. But then part of me thinks that FI will be in his wedding one day, so it all evens out.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
You can help him pay for it. As PP stated, what’s affordable for one person may be too expensive for another. As for him agreeing to be in the bridal party, maybe he wasn’t aware of the cost involved.
Post # 9
They are a little pricey from what we paid, but not in the range id say is crazy or anything! I’d just ignore him. He’ll get over it and pay.
Post # 10
KristenD9: No more rude than expecting someone to pay $160 to rent something for someone else’s wedding. It is not like he will have anything to show for it at the end of the day, unlike a BM who will still have the dress that they could possibly wear again or sell.
If you don’t want to compromise then you need to pay.
Post # 11
j_jaye: Even if I compromised, it would still be about the same price. Tuxedo rentals where I live cost around $140 on average. It’s FI’s older brother, so I know if nothing else, his dad will pay the difference. And he knows that too, which makes me feel like he just said something to be a jerk.
Post # 12
KristenD9: Compromise is ditching tuxes for something more affordable or as I said paying for the tuxes yourself or at the very least paying the difference. Expecting people to pay for your wedding vision is pretty rude to me, as is complaining about someone who has flat out said they cannot afford your vision.
When brides/grooms won’t compromise it says to me a piece of clothing is more important to us than the person.
Post # 13
Yes, it is a lot of money. But, it is also average. If your FIL will pay the difference I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Being in a wedding as well as having a wedding is expensive… I’m not sure who doesn’t know that. Of course try to find something in a reasonable price, which I think you did. That’s roughly what everyone in our bridal party will be spending on attire, and I’ve spent the same in other peoples weddings.
Post # 14
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
KristenD9: “They are exactly what I want, and I don’t feel I should have to compromise.” – then pay and you won’t have to.
Post # 15
You probably should have checked up front with your wedding party to see what they could afford. To say that he ‘shouldn’t have agreed to be in the wedding if he wasn’t willing to agree to the financial side of it’ is a bit cold, considering that he’s your fiance’s brother. The honor is *yours*, not theirs for them to be in the wedding. They are the people you want to stand beside you and witness your union, not props to be displayed for your overall vision. Just because you don’t think it’s pricey or that he should be able to afford it doesn’t make it so. It’s not your money he’s spending, it’s his. You should have checked with your party before hand to see if they were within everyone’s price range.