- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So, the best man has my bachelor party planned. I know because he’s giddy about it. He’s been dropping hints, but they’re not clear at all, so I don’t know what to make of them.
A few things that are driving me crazy about it, already;
1. He gave my future wife the (alleged, at least) itinerary. I don’t mind her knowing in the sense that I don’t (and won’t) have anything to hide. At the same time, kinda bummed about this one because I really preferred keeping it between me and the guys. She’s involved in 100% of my life, and will be involved in 100% of my life from here on forward. This was one thing that I wanted to myself. Selfish, yes, but that’s how I felt. In retrospect, I should have thought to tell my best man that before this happened.
2. My future wife asked the best man to invite her father, uncle and brother. He did, and they’re all coming. This bothers me for several reasons. First, she never should have taken it upon herself to decide this, in my opinion (we’re going to talk about it tomorrow and she’s promised to give me the full details as to why this happened). Second, this is a weekend getaway and my father and brothers won’t be there (I wouldn’t want my father there, but he works weekends anyway and as to my brothers, well, they both have several kids under ten years of age to attend to.) So, I don’t like the idea that I’ll have a bunch of her family there and none of mine. Third, while I understand that we are becoming one family and all that, and while I have been able to cultivate a bit of a relationship with her father, uncle and brother… I would rather continue cultivating it at another time, and another place. To me, this trip is all about alternating between relaxing and letting loose. That’s something I can do with my FRIENDS, The last thing I want to be worried about is having too much too drink and making an ass of myself in front of my father-in-law just a month before our wedding. Noooooo thank you. Not that I make a habit of doing that anyway, but I just don’t want to be sitting there worried about saying or doing something that puts me in a bad light in his eyes.
3. Last year I posted a thread asking for help choosing my best man. It was either going to be my best friend, or my two brothers as co-best men. Since my two brothers are ten years or more older than me, you all recommended picking my best friend. I think that was the right choice, but that is yet to be determined. He is one of these guys that is easily swayed, and there are other groomsmen involved in planning this bachelor party who I love very much, but I don’t necessarily trust 100%. I have made clear my preference that there be NO strippers, nudity or (illegal) drugs. I’m probably being overly paranoid, but there’s a small part of me that still worries they will override this request, thinking they know what’s best for me. God, please, no. Fortunately, I have asked another one of my friends to do my a favor: if anything involving strippers or anything sexual at all goes on, then his job is to get me out of the situation. Again, I’m probably being paranoid but I really hope there’s nothing questionable like that. Around my future father in law, no less.. ugh.