- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
FIs best man has always been a “gossip” and everyone in our group of friends acknowledges it, even to his face. Anyway, around Christmas he was talking to Fiance on msn and Fiance (laughing) showed me all these things he was saying about the wedding, like asking is he was getting cold feet, saying that he would feel like he was wasting his life if he got married this young, etc. We just wrote it off as a bit of teasing at the time, albeit dark teasing. About a month later one of my BMs who knows him said he told her not to bother buying her dress because the wedding would end up being canceled anyway. I was livid and after talking to Fiance about it he eventually talked to his best man. Best man said that he was just kidding and they laughed it off. Last night my Bridesmaid or Best Man told me that Best man is still talking like that, and to a lot of our mutual friends too (which explains some of the funny questions I’ve been getting from friends that I don’t see very much).
I want to have him kicked out. I don’t mind him being a guest, but I just can’t imagine having someone stand with us at out wedding that is this negative. That said, I know it’s FIs choice who is in his side of the wedding, but at this point I’d rather elope than get married with best man there. I emailed my Bridesmaid or Best Man today and asked her if she can send me some specific details about times that best man said different things, because when I bring this to Fiance I want to be prepared so he knows I’m not just being whiny about the stuff from before.
Please advise me. What would you do? Fiance doesn’t like to cause drama and I’m positive he won’t kick out best man. Does this situation give me a “right” to kick him out myself? Should I just tolerate him? Is there another option I’m not seeing?