best man / man of honor

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@daniellemc: is your FI agesnt you haing your brother on your side because of the boy/girl look? or does he really want  your brother over his own? maybe he didnt want to pick one of his brothers because the other would feel slighted…does he have a best friend who could be his bestman?have you said anything to your brother about being in the wedding?  if it was me i would tell FI to let him be on your side have your brother as your MOH and thell the FI to pick a friend (not his brother over the other brother ) you cant have 2…one stands next to you the other does not…hope this helps

 

Post # 4
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Why can’t he be both?

You don’t need a MOH, just like your Fi doesn’t need a Best Man. So why not comprimise and both have him stand up for you, since he’lll be standing up there anyway?

Post # 7
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@daniellemc:  Well, I don’t know about the stress part. He’d be helping anyway, and the other GMs and BMs should help out if they can. I can’t see it being a ton more work than just being your Man of Honor, and actually it balances out a bit (no dress shopping, no bachelorette party I’d think, only one speech… I am sure there are other perks to being a Best Man of Honor)

I actually wonder if the best thing to do would be to ask your brother what his opinion might be? It’s a good idea to take his thoughts into consideration. 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@daniellemc:  I have a question…if you had your brother as your man of honor, would you expect him to do all the duties that you would expect out of a maid of honor (or what you would expect if your cousin was your maid of honor)? Perhaps your brother, knowing all he’d have to do, wouldn’t want to be a man of honor other than for the title and to support his sister becuase he doesn’t want to take on so many responsibilities. Just something to think about.

He shouldn’t be under too much stress from this wedding and being a man of honor for both of you unless you and your FI each plan on hunkering him down with wedding duties.

I would ask him for each of you, but with the understand of all you want to make him responsible for.

 

Post # 9
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@daniellemc:  jeez, yeah that sux hes not from aound here(where you are) well everyone standing there us up there for the both of you so because your brother is not by your side does not mean hes not with you 🙂 it may make your stress level go up if your MOH is a guy who cant fluff your dress andhold your flowers the correct way? if you want to look at it that way? i was going to have my best guy friend be my MOH but hes the typical beer/football/fishing guy so hes just going to “shut up and show up” as he puts it…so he wont know to do girlly things like a female MOH would know…so it may be a good thing to have your bro on the other side 🙂 

Post # 12
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1028 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

 @CakeyP:  +1 to this idea but only if little is expected of him since he’s in grad school.

 @daniellemc: – BTW I think having your brother as your MAN-OH is the cutest and sweetest thing!!

Post # 14
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@daniellemc:  aww that means a lot to me 🙂 hugs! hope you have a beautiful wedding!

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