Post # 1
We’re getting married mid October and my fiance’s best man hasn’t spoken to him in over a month. No call, no text, no email. He also hasn’t gone to get fitted for his tux even though my fiance contacted him about it 6 weeks ago (and texted him twice to remind him about it in the couple weeks that followed). My fiance has been super busy lately, so I don’t think he has taken the time to initiate a phone call/conversation w/ his best man… But is it weird that the best man hasn’t talked to him lately or gotten fitted yet?? Should we take it as a sign that he’s not interested in the wedding, or am I looking into it too much?
Post # 3
Until you’ve actually spoken to the best man, I wouldn’t assume anything. Your FI should keep trying to contact him – it’s annoying but needs to be done! I hope it turns out he’s just been busy rather than something bad.
Post # 4
I don’t think my fiance actually wants to have to try to keep contacting him, and part of me doesn’t blame him. I feel like as a best man you should try to keep in contact with the groom leading up to the wedding (or at least go get fitted for your damn tux without having to be contacted and reminded to do so FOUR times). The thing is, the best man is not a flaky kind of guy. He takes his responsibilities in life very seriously and has always been a really reliable person. Up until a couple months ago he used to call my fiance a couple times a week and they’d hang out at least once a week. So this whole MIA thing seems very out of character (which worries me). My fiance has been wanting to begin planning a bachelor party but hasn’t been able to because he hasn’t heard from the guy. I dunno… maybe I’m being too sensitive.
Post # 5
If this is a good friend, I don’t see why FI does not want to contact him. Beyond his Best Man duties, it sounds like something could be wrong in his life. If this is very out of character for him, maybe he is dealing with another issue/ stress in his life right now. I think FI should put the wedding aside and see what’s up. Give him a call just to check in, say hello and meet up to hang out w/o talking about the wedding. Maybe he is also just overwhelmed by the wedding. As far as getting fitted for the tux, my brothers have not done that yet either and our wedding is next month, I think guys just really don’t understand that it can’t be a day before kind of thing but it can be 2 weeks out so that should not be a problem.