Post # 1
So long story short, the best man is an alcoholic now and a jerk and just cares about his new “party crew.” He was supposed to plan the bach party and when my FI asked him about it got very defensive and said he can’t afford it. Well he could afford it if he didn’t go to the bar every night. FI told him he hasn’t earned the title of best man and would like him to still be a groomsman. “Best man” told him F you and opted out of the wedding and is now wanting my FI to apologize. Even if they make up, we don’t want him there and I’ve already finalized the flowers and ceremony whuch doesn’t include him. Just a vent and kinda upset because I do not want him in the wedding or at the wedding =/
Post # 3
I am so sorry this is happening to you!! 🙁 but you did what you thought was best and that’s what matters.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Yikes! That sucks, but glad you’re discovering this now instead of having a guy in your wedding that will just leave bitter memories.
Post # 5
We had this happen, too. FI’s brother was asked to step down/suggested their cousin be best man because he’s become a giant douche. I knew he’d be a terrible best man from the beginning because he’s only interested in his wife and their kid and her family. They have “no money,” despite making twice what I do and having fewer expenses. I keep hearing, “Well, kids are expensive…” except that they don’t pay for ANYTHING for their kid. His wife is a SAHM and they get tons of shit from both sets of parents (including cash). They “can’t afford” to buy a couch ffs. Not to mention that he works about 20 hours of overtime a week. I emailed him in March about the bachelor party, and it took him 29 days to send me a one sentence reply that said that they couldn’t afford to do any of the pre-wedding activities (which literally include one family shower and our bachelor/ette party). My beautiful, wonderful MOH took over and we decided to do a joint party. FI FINALLY got ahold of his brother last weekend and they discussed his cousin taking over as best man, and he was like, “Oh…yeah…we might not be able to afford to come up for the wedding.” Except that they rented a car and came up here a few weeks ago because his wife’s BIL got into a car accident (a minor one). wtf.
Post # 6
Thank you ladies for making me feel better!
@vorpalette: omg that’s seriously Awful! In swear weddings bring out the crazy in people lol