Post # 1
DH little brother is getting married in 2 days and DH is the best man. I asked DH how the speech is coming along and he admited not well.. he is having major anxiety so I offered to come ask the bee’s for ideas/suggestions.
DH isn’t overly emotional, especially infront of a room full of new people so a lot of my suggestions seem too… touch-y feel-y for him. He also doesn’t know his future sil very well and the stories he has of them as a couple aren’t wedding appropriate (example: both off there face drubk vomiting naked in the bathroom).
What are some things that make a best man speech great? Is it personal stories, is it complimenting the bride/groom, or something else?
Post # 3
i would go with a sort of… Praising the bride, making fun of the groom angle.
‘I remember when Johnny was a kid, and he used to always come home from soccer covered in mud and bruises, and I’d think God help the woman that has to clean his clothes when he gets married! But seriously, Sarah, it’s so great that Johnny’s found a woman as funny and kind as you – you’d have to have a sense of humour to deal with him!’
If he can’t think of anything about the couple, go for all encompassing statements such as kind, loving, peaceful. A good place to start might be the proposal, if your DH helped in anyway, or perhaps the way he told you. ‘The first thing I thought when Johnny called to say he had proposed was… I’ve put up with him for 22 years, where’s my giant diamond!’
Hope some of that helps!
Post # 4
@dannielle89: FI gave a really great best man speech recently, but then again he knew both the bride and groom well. He started off by talking about the groom and what he was like before meeting and going out with the bride, basically very hermit-like, just marathon video games, etc. And then he talked about how we helped with their first date (we giftwrapped his entire bedroom and bathroom) and instead of running, she helped him clean up and still hung out afterwards. Then he talked about how he was after they’d been together and how they were now. My favorite part was “It went from being ____ sitting on the couch playing Mass Effect to ____ and ________ sitting on the couch playing Mass effect.” He talked about how he’d done a complete 180 and you could just see without a doubt how much she meant to him, how happy she made him, and how they had made each other better people.
Maybe be can do something similar and talk about the change in his brother and how he views their relationship. It doesn’t have to be the greatest speech ever written. It doesn’t have to be long. Just speak from the heart, talk about what you know, what you’ve seen. It’ll be great.
Post # 5
@dannielle89: he can reference those stories… “I know that, through their. Highs, and their lows, some times as low as the bathroom floor … They have always been better together, than apart. ” you could also be more subtle, but I’ve or two of those nods are good. Humanizing people is always good in this context.
If he didn’t know her well, he should talk about how the relationship has Chene his brother for the better. How he is more organized, or more confident, and how he is happier than he has ever been.
Post # 6
Stories are the best thing for speeches. They’re easier to tell and easier to listen to. So he should:
1. Introduce himself.
2. (The bulk of the speech). Tell one or two funny/sweet stories about his brother. The stories don’t need to involve the bride. Someone else (usually the father of the bride in Australia) can talk about the bride. Just something from them growing up. Funny is good, so long as it’s not *too* embarassing. About the only thing off limits is mention of any previous girlfriends.
3. Conclude by saying he’s glad he’s found SIL, and wish them happiness (or propose a toast).
The whole thing ideally should be just 5 minutes, if that. But with a couple of stories, that time will get filled easily.
Post # 7
Our best man made a couple of jokes and we all really loved his speech.
He said “Being asked to be the best man is a bit like being asked to make love to the queen- it’s a great honour, but you really don’t want to do it!” and he also said to DH “If you’re ever having trouble, just remember these 3 words- Sorry, you’re right!”
Maybe not to everyone’s taste, but I thought they were really funny lol.
Aside from a joke or two, definitely keep it short and sweet. You don’t want it to drag on forever and it’s always nice to mention that the bride looks beautiful and the groom has been a good friend (or in this case brother).