- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Hi Girls !
I am in a really tricky situation and need some advice because I really do not know what to do right now.
FI will have his bachelor party and I will have mine (in Paris) in some weeks, we both agreed that we will not include any stripper related activities since it would hurt each other more than anything else.
FI asked me to gently notice his friend (the one who organise the surprise bachelor) about the fact that I do not want any stripper involved in this week end and he was like “oooh no, I now have to start again organisation because “EVERTHING” was stripper related in this week end etc etc’. I did not liked his joke but I think he got the message. (FI told me he think so too)
Then, FI’s friend told me he want to take FI to east Europe which I hate because they are really “sex week end’ oriented. I told FI that he might be taken to east Europe or somewhere else (I do not want to spoil any surprise but choices of destination are limited so i did not spoiled anything by naming potential destinations). I told him I am not comfortable with east Europe and he said he would not be happy if I would (for example) go to east Europe so he will talk to his friend. This talk took place a month ago before FI’s friends started to organise booking etc (they were still talking about the date at this time).
I was very happy until two days ago, I sent a msg to FI’friends about our wedding (he is our best man) and he replied with pictures of the appartment he booked for the bachelor and GUEST WHAT! IT IS IN EAST EUROPE … when you google the ‘name of the city’ + ‘capital of’…one of the google suggestion is ‘capital of x’ or ‘capital of sex’, really nice…
I had a talk with FI tonight and asked him if he knew where the bachelor will be and he said no, then i asked him if he told his friend about east Europe and he said yes, i did !
I believe and trust FI but I am really concern about the stripper subject now…I am fine if FI is going to east Europe now that everything is booked…but I would be really upset if his friends take him to stripper places because they think he will be happy with that (they are 4 guys…only one is in a serious relationship and they seems to be really into party and drinking)
FI and I are very honnest to each other and if it happen, I know that we will have to tell each other and it will only create bad feelings.
The friend who organise FI’s bachelor is our best man and i know him a little bit, not that much. I do not want to insist too much and be the crazy girl but he already did something that was a “NOGO” for us…This guy is obviously doing what he want.
I was thinking about sending him a second message about the stripper so he could not say he was not aware of it or he missunderstood …
Sorry it was long but i needed to share this and really need some advice, please dont tell me ‘east europe’ is fine etc…I am sure of what I am saying (the city they go is really into sex industry)