Post # 1
we are having our destination wedding in cancun,so everyone is staying in an all inclusive hotel and the wedding is at 6pm outside the hotel.
thing is, the best man keeps asking “so when can we start drinking??”. the first time i thought it was a joke, but he asked again and again so i pointed out id really rather like it if he was sober in the church and he can do what he watns in the reception
i mean i know that plenty of people do drink all day in all inclusives while lounging around the pool, but its honestly starting to sound like hes thinking ‘all day party’ while im thinking wedding. im not thinking complete alcohol ban, but am i out of line asking him (and the other GM) just to rein in in until after we’ve left the church? or rather getting fi to ask them since itll come better from him. fi said he wants to have a gettign ready photo with the guys, with a shot of tequila, but otherwise doesnt plan to drink on the day until the reception
what do you think? i dont want to come off bridezilla-esque but now im starting to have visions of drunken swaying people wafting alcohol fumes in front of the priest/altar!
Post # 3
I didn’t think that I needed to say anything to them, but the groomsmen did start drinking pretty early. One if them NEVER drinks and is on a really restricted diet, but he was really feeling the wedding spirit and passed out while dinner was being served…whatever. I guess I should have asked them to chill out until the reception 🙂
Post # 4
@newname_99: I’m assuming you guys plan on having all the paperwork done in advance? Otherwise the best man can’t drink until after he witnesses it, same goes for Maid/Matron of Honor and you and Fiance.
Post # 5
@drummerbride: well the church wedding (the catholic one at 6) isnt legal in mexico The legal ceremony with the signing of the marriage certificate will be at 2pm that day with the judge/
i wasnt aware witnesses legally couldnt drink! ive often heard of people having a glass of champagne while they get ready. so i suppose technially he could drink after the legal bit but before the catholic bit – not that i want him to
Post # 6
I would definately ask your fiance to get involved. They are his friends, right? He should be able to keep them in control until after the wedding. I don’t think it is “bride-zilla” to ask. Like you said, you don’t want a bunch of drunks at the wedding. The party can start at the wedding. I am sure they will understand.
Post # 7
My FI’s family is european and they are a very large family and have a lot of weddings. I remember once being buzzed at the church at 8:30AM….LOL It put me in an extra good mood and I didn’t even mind all the crying babies so much cause I was able to get my drank on! But yeah, is this the best man’s first time trying alcohol? Why so eager? What is he, like 4?
Post # 8
@Pixie79: oh god knows. i think hes in holiday mode or something, “wake up, eat breakfast, start drinking”
fi doesnt see the big deal if people start drinking so i doubt he’ll say anything