Post # 1
My bff and I are both planning our weddings at the same time. Mine is in April and hers in September. She has just now gotten to the point where she is thinking about catering/bar costs.
Her reception is going to be from 5:30pm – 9:30 (4 hours) and her venue package only covers 3 hours of open bar. She can’t even pay extra to extend the hours as this would have been her first choice. Her venue only allows 3 hours of drinking per event.
She is now in a dilemma on what to do and not seem rude/tacky/cheap. I know my friend, she would totally pay for 4 full hours of open bar if she could.
Anyway, I wanted to get some opinions from you ladies so that I can help her out with options as she is freaking out and thinks people will compare our weddings (which I tried to assure her, they would NOT), please vote in the poll and let us know, as a guest, which would you prefer?
Post # 3
What happened to my paragraphs????
Post # 4
open during cocktail hour, closed during dinner, reopen remainer of night….I think that is pretty standard and not confusing at all.
Post # 5
I would probably close it during the dinner hour. Most people aren’t going to get up in the middle of a meal to get a drink – as long as water/tea/soda/ect are still available.
I would also add – if you friend adds in the highlight dances or something during that hour down time – people are going to be paying attention to those events and less likely to try and walk-off to the bar.
Post # 6
@MrsRedPumps: first option. Why only 3 hours of open bar? Her guests can still purchase alcohol though? I’m confused. Could she just host the bar in that case?
Post # 7
@MrsRedPumps: I think the most sensible option would be keeping the bar open continuously until the last hour (and closing it down completely at that point). This is especially true if she can still offer non-alcoholic drinks for free to her guests. The DJ (or someone else, if desired) could make an announcement 30 minutes prior to the closing of the bar as well so there are no surprises.
Oh, and I see paragraphs on my computer.
Post # 8
@housebee: Same question I had. Per her coordinator they (the venue) only have contracted rates with the bartender that they use for 3 hours packages. They will only allow alcohol to be served in their ballroom for 3 hours max.
There is a lobby bar which will be available for guests to purchase their own drinks. I (assuming here) think the bride feels bad about this and does not want it mentioned to anyone. The lobby is a ways away from the ballroom on the other side of the building.
I told her that she can spread that news through word of mouth in case people WANT to buy drinks after her bar closes.
Sorry, I should have made that clearer in my first post.
Post # 9
@MrsRedPumps: what if she just hosts the bar tab at the lobby bar?
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@angelinthesnowxo: This. Close the bar for the last hour so guests have time to sober up before leaving and driving.
Post # 11
I think it’s best to just close for the last hour… lets people sober up a little before they leave anyway.
Post # 12
I voted close the last hour. Especially if guests are driving home, they don’t need a last minute drink IMO
Post # 13
@MrsRedPumps: I voted “3 hr Continuos bar and have cash bar after to allow guest to purchase alcholic drinks if they want”, but I didn’t realise that guests would have to walk to the bar in the lobby for that last hour. In that case, I would pick “Keep the continuous open bar and close for the last hour (non alcholic drinks still free for guests)”.
Post # 14
@housebee: The Lobby bar is not a part of the venue where she is holding her reception. There are 3 locations in one area and the lobby Bar belongs to one of the other clubs. BUT maybe she can check on this and see if it is possible. That would be so cool!
Thank you you everyone for your suggesstions and votes. I will relay all of these suggestions to her.
ETA: Whoa, sorry I made lots of typos in my poll! I misspelled ALCOHOL and CONTINUOUS like 3 times a pc. Sorry I was rushing yesterday!
Post # 15
can the bride and groom provide wine to put on the tables during the dinner hour? if so, I’d close the bar during dinner but have that wine available–my family is pretty adamant about having wine at dinner, lol. but otherwise, i’d just close the bar for that last hour, especially if most guests are going to be driving anyway.