Post # 1
So there’s a lot of talk about how bummed we all are about our SO’s being gone/deployed, etc….
So what’s the best thing about him being in the military, whatever branch that may be? I’ll go first
1) i love telling ppl my fi’s a captain in the military. People are 99% grateful and appreciative and apparently i get points for this, too, haha!
2) Discounts. We get to stay at lots of nice places/hotels for about half price
3) Knowing he’s doing an honorable thing. I think giving back to your country is the best thing an individual can do. I have so much respect for our servicemen and women and their families
4) it makes them such a man….grrrrrr
5) i feel like b/c they are gone so often, they appreciate us more and work extra hard to make up for lost time
6) they appreciate bad home cooking…it’s better than what’s in the field!
Ok now you go! I could make lists all day just to be silly
Post # 3
This is a good topic for focusing on the positives! I have a lot of your same reasons ejs4y8!
1) So proud of him serving his country – he is a wonderful, grounded, honorable person and his being in the military reflects that.
2) Discounts are great – I have been learning to take more and more advantage of them lately and plan to in the future!
3) The uniforms! 🙂
4) On a related note, getting all gussied up to go to the various formal events at West Point, and having those events as an excuse to see him!
If I think of more I will be sure to add on!
Post # 4
You ladies have stolen most of my answers, so on top of the ones you gave, here are a few more!!!
1) The homecomings. Absense really does make my heart grow fonder.
2) I appreciate what I have with him so much more since he’s always gone!
3) Our communication skills are top notch.
4) the uniforms, oh, the uniforms *swoon*
5) sharing this unspoken (and sometimes spoken!) bond with other military wives/fiances/girlfriends
Post # 5
Really? no more takers? Wow!
Post # 6
I have a couple more…..
-Homecoming twister is very much appreciated
-Everyone in the military/his unit is like a big family
Post # 7
For now mine are skewed toward having an SO in a service academy… post-wedding I’ll probably have more specifically from being an Army wife. Jesstagirl had some that I agree with very much, like communication and appreciating time with them!
Post # 8
I’m the one in the military…I don’t think that a lot of those go both ways! (Isn’t that weird?
Men in uniforms = sexy
Women in uniforms=stewardess
Post # 9
LoL, i know, isn’t it sad MightySapphire? I must say my ROTC uniform never looked cute on me. And those patent heels and hose? Very boring. There’s nothing feminine about them at all!
Well, unless you were part of that era where women were WASPS or whatever for the WWII era. I always think they looked so cute with their glam curled hair. Sort of pin up i guess but I always thought they were the cutest!
Post # 10
My FI and I are both in the Army! I love writing letters to each other. We’re both much more eloquent in writing! I also love how much it makes me appreciate him being around. I also think being apart gives us a chance to grow and change. I try to use our times apart to improve something about myself (last time he was gone, I cured myself of leaving lights on!) 😉
I also like the job security! can’t beat it while planning a wedding!
Post # 11
And to the two posts above me– somehow I never feel very sexy in my Class A’s (i’m ROTC). Stewardess is just the right term for that outfit! I do feel I-am-woman-hear-me-roar in the ACU’s though. Nothing like combat boots and dog tags.
Post # 12
Dogtags look sexy on a woman, IMO. To me women in Class A’s look regal, nice.
Post # 13
I have to agree with many of your answers. Don’t mind if I take a couple. I love this game…
1) Feel so proud when I tell people he’s in submarines, others are so amazed when I tell them this
2) Love letters (more like Emails now)/phone calls during deployment (what an appreciation and love there is communicated there)
3) The bond that we have is like no other, and we (and other military couples) seem to be the only ones that understand this bond
4) Have to admit he looks so sexy in his uniform (yum!)
5) We have the best communication ever!
6) I stand proud that I have a man who is not selfish and willing to stand for his country.
Aww! I miss him now 🙁
Post # 14
We’re both in the military- in different branches so we’re separated 90 percent of the year right now. I’m a little down on that fact, but we made the decision together and knew the consequences.
That being said, the positive:
– It’s an awesome opportunity for us to make sure we’re going to last, before we commit to children. It may sound a little sadistic, but 50 percent of marriages end- if we make it through this we’ll be indestructable!
-Our communication skills are great.
-The uniform doesn’t hurt 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
I’m also the one in the military (rather than hubby) and I have to concur with MightySapphire; the uniforms don’t do the women any justice. :oP
Funny this was brought up though. Hubby was telling me that he was talking to a co-worker the other day and was telling him the benefits of being married to someone in the military (the extra pay, the free insurance, the discounts, free use of gym, etc.) and his friend asked if I had any single, military, gal friends he could marry. LoL.
Post # 16
Yay for dual military couples! I think they’re the sweetest because I think it makes it much easier to understand all the stuff your SO is going through, including obligations. I used to get really frustrated when my FI would suddenly have to work til 8 or 9 in the night or some of the drama at work b/c I didn’t "get it"
It’s so nice to have emails now….can you imagine 20 years ago how long it took to get communication via good ole fashioned snail mail? Man!
I think it sucks in general the military tries to defeminize (i totally made that up) women, right down to hair color, makeup, earrings, purse, etc. I think they need to loosen up a LITTLE bit to allow the women who want to be, be more feminine. I always felt like i was being turned into a man and i hated that. I understand it, but I felt like it’s a huge deterrant for women in the military, too. My FI is always talking bad about women in the Army, and I just want to go give them cute bobs and makeovers! haha. I always got crap for being the girl who wore makeup and I always thought that was retarded
Maureen, when you two get married, the military makes it a point to keep their married couples 60 miles apart as much as possible. Hopefully you’ll get to see each other more frequently b/c of this.