Post # 1
When is planning too soon?
I was told that wedding planning can start anytime from 16 months to 12 months before the wedding date?
Isnt that a bit too soon? Even a year? A lot can happen within a year (weight gain/loss in particular)
Im new to all of this, my mom never had a wedding ceremony so im not particularly sure when I should approach the wedding planning.
Could someone please give me a short timeline on when you started your wedding arrangements (announcing, wedding dress looking/buying, bridesmaids dress purchaces, invites sent out, ect.)
Post # 3
@ChristineMw: I think the 12 month ahead planning is more for things like venues, photographers, etc that might get booked early/in advanced. We had a 10 month engagement, and I started planning the location, photographer and DJ immediately. Then there was definitely a lull in planning until about 4 months out. Then invites, DIY projects, etc started popping up. Also, if you plan on ordering your dress, you want to give the designer up to 5 months to make it, plus shipping times.
Post # 4
I started about 12 months out booking things. Research included…about 13-14 months (it took me a few months to find a venue).
I think 12-14 months is generally a good time frame to actually begin finding/booking the venue. Some popular reception venues book up 1-1.5 years in advance. So if you know where you want to have it at, it’s a good idea to book that a year in advance. Same thing with a photographer. That assumes you want a specific day. Often times if you don’t have a specific day you can pick from whatever the venue has open and book later than that.
As far as any other vendors, I would just start doing it less than a year out with the goal of having your vendors booked 6-8 months before the wedding.
Now that’s if you like to plan ahead and get your first pick of vendors. Lots of people do it in shorter time frames, but you just don’t have as much selection and I imagine it can get chaotic.
For the dress, I wouldn’t go earlier than 12 month out. I think most dresses take 4-6 months to come in, so I’d say 8-10 months out is a good time to buy one. I never planned on losing much weight, so that didn’t really affect me.
Bridesmaids dress purchases…I think 6-7 months is plenty of time.
Send invites out 8-10 weeks before the wedding. Save the Dates could go 6 months-8 months (some people are ok with up to a year in advance for destination weddings)
I got most of my vendors booked by 10-9 months out, with the exception of 1. After that there isn’t much to do until you get closer. I don’t have much to do now until 3-4 months out…except for minor things. Picking out BM dresses next month.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
We started planning about 15 months out. If you have a venue you really like, check out when they book up, as some book out a year in advance. Other stuff can wait for longer, like your dress.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Muhlhauser Barn
The first things we did were get together a draft guest list to see how many people we were going to need to fit in our venue, put together a rough budget, & then book a venue… our venue books about 1-1.5 years in advance, so while we were the first couple to book our weekend in May 2014, within the next month, every weekend in May-June 2014 was booked too… this was in October of 2012. It’s crazy how early the good venues can go!
Now we’ve got our venue, DJ & caterer booked… probably a little early on the DJ, but we got a really good deal after a bridal show & I wanted to get it at that price, so I went for it. The catering takes up 50% of our budget so I wanted to know what that figure was going to be for sure, so we met with them on Saturday.
I haven’t started dress shopping yet, but we are going this Sunday so I can sort of scare myself into getting back into the habit of going to the gym (I hope!). I’ve been slacking & I really do want to lose at least 30 pounds prior to wearing the dress, so I’m hoping this will get me in gear!
Post # 7
WE HAVE THE SAME DATE!!!!
I started planning right away with the big stuff. We booked the venues and figured out a budget in October when we got engaged. Things were already starting to book up for 2014!
Then we laid off for a bit.. I chose my wedding party right after the new year and now we are trying to think about how to split up the budget, research, and see what is important to us.
You are right, a lot can change.. but I feel like there a two waves in longer engagements like ours. I figure next year between January and June.. will FLY! So we got the big stuff out of the way, enjoy engagement then we will pick up again with a year or so to go!
Post # 8
@ChristineMw: We had a 13 month engagement. At 12 months out we had all our major vendors booked and I had ordered a dress. Then, there was a lull for a few months. About 7 months out I started doing more planning – choosing BMs dresses, etc. The brunt of our planning and decision making has happened in the past 2 months or so (at the 3-4 month mark). But, it’s good to get some of the “time sensitive” planning out of the way (e.g., ordering dresses, etc.).
Post # 9
@ChristineMw: Toally depends on where you plan on getting married. Where I’m from/getting married, most churches and venues book up 12-14 months (if not more) in advance.
We got engaged in May ’12 and are getting married June ’13. I had to immediately hop on planning once we were engaged in order to have a summer ’13 wedding. Our date was basically determined by the 1 free Saturday in June for the venue.
Post # 10
BTW – sign up for theknot. They have a great month-by-month checklist, that has kept me on track!
Post # 11
We started last month, and I’m glad we did! We’re already running into venue issues, and we’ve switched twice already.
We’ve gotten all tablewear, chair covers & sashes, and most of the decor.
Basically, we plan to have everything paid off by the end of this year, so next year we can just sock away all of our money.
Some people might think I’m planning too early, but that’s okay. I’d rather be debt free.
I won’t be doing a dress or anything until probably 6 months or so out.
Post # 12
Also weddingwire.com has been a godsend to me. You can add all of your contacts for all things wedding related [guests], create your wedding website, and it even has a budget tool so you can track your spending & list out all the things you still need to buy!