Best tips to stop stressing?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@FutureMrsT1221:  Its kind of weird but when I’m super stressed I come with stories in my head, like watch a movie without the tv on.  It keeps me focused on something that isn’t bothering me and helps me fall asleep.  I get bad like I can feel my blood rushing and I get all hot and sweaty.  Its awful.  So I just stop and tell myself it won’t help to sit here thinking about it and then come up with a funny story to “watch.”

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Best way to calm your mind is to take deep breaths and meditate. Smile.

I mostly meditate to clear my mind of any thoughts.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Sleep time note book. Write down all your worries, tell yourself you’ll deal with them in the morning. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I drink tea whenever I’m stressed. Well, at any time, really, because I love tea, but I drink specific flavours whenever I’m stressed.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Here I am posting at 3am… I have the same problem. The only thing that worked for me for a while was to read 1 hours before bedtime, and then meditate to fall asleep. You should try it, it could work for you.

The problem was that mediating is HARD. I tried to train my mind but after a while I would start thinking about stressing things unwillingly. Now I am once again chronically sleep-deprived so I am planning to go see a therapist.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Do something that you love.  For me, it’s writing.  Otherwise watch some brainless tv ( real housewives anyone?). Or exercise – Pilates is great for relaxation and helps with muscle tension.  

Talk to a friend about it.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Agreed with Pilates that it is relaxing; plus, it’s a great work out!

Meditating can be challenging. Meditating for 5 minutes at a time goes a long ways. Just tell yourself positive things. Light a candle. Focus on the candle. Then, close your eyes. Repeat the mantra of “I am love. I am light”, channeling that energy to your heart, your brain; etc. (This was shown at a meditation workshop I attended a year ago)

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Have you tried sleep relaxation CDs? They always work for me. I’m horrible at meditation, so it really helps to have someone else direct my relaxation 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not related to sleep exactly, but since it does effect my sleep I thought I’d post.  If I’m really stressed about things especially if I can’t just “fix it” and am working on it but it’s a process I’ll make lists and keep them in a notebook by the bed so I can jot things down to deal with later.  I also love spreadsheets so this is probably why it works really well for me.  I’ll list all the things worrying me, then next to them what I’m doing about it or have done, or need to do or look into.  Or if I’m supposed to be sleeping I’d jot just the issue to deal with later, or any solutions or whatnot so i wouldn’t forget.  Usually a small notebook like 5″x7″ and I’ll take it everywhere!

I once was fired from a job I loved for a crazy reason, I was a basket case because I loved the job and the reason I was fired wasn’t even something I did… so I was stressed and emotional about that.  Then of course there was money worries with being suddenly unemployed.  I already had my spreadsheets for money so I knew what was what.  But I’d jot down even little things I needed/wanted to do in the notebook so I wouldn’t forget and also really because it helped clear my mind.

So in the above case I would write down places I could apply, ways I could cut money going out and ways to get money coming in.  Like this:

  • Apply to X, Y, Z
  • Sell old clothes – thrift shop/friends?
  • Let friends know looking for work-done
  • Sell video games-DONE
  • Utility bill: apply for LIHEAP*-called to get app sent to me.  

And sometimes even entries like “BREATHE” or “You can do this.” so it was sort of motivational thrown in too.

*LIHEAP is a great program if you are low income and pay your own heating or even reimburse your landlord, it’s a one time benefit applied to your heating bill in the winter, solely income/resource based each year (can’t have thousands in the bank) and not sure this year but last year anyone 130% and under the poverty level was eligible.  If you think you may qualify google it for your state (also known as just Energy Assistance/EA).

This is the sort of thing that worked for me.  Along with making myself have a set time before bed reading or doing something relaxing, because it is so hard to relax when you’re stressed… the notebook helped me here because I was allowed to stop the relaxing to jot things down but not to dwell/deal with them at that time. 

I really hope you find what works for you and look forward to reading others tricks and tactics, because we all have stress, but sometimes it is a lot at once and hard to deal with!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I, like I’m sure many other people, also have a problem with stress. It definitely affects my sleep.

The best way I find to help me fall asleep is having noise around me – either the TV playing (and on sleep timer) or the radio on.

A good cuddle with my dogs doesn’t hurt either. 

I’m also a talker. If I talk about it, I usually feel better. Unless it gets me worked up and then I’m back at square one!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@FutureMrsT1221:  can you afford to take a day for yourself? maybe go to the spa, get your nails done, shop for a little bit. or just drive around.

I always think, are the things I’m stressing about important or are they vain? Like If I’m stressing over something like a grade for a class or something I compare myself to people stressing about their next meal or where they are going to sleep that night and I realize my stress is  not that important compared to people facing real dilemmas and i realize how privileged I am.

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

aND LISTEN TO COLDPLAY!!!! Laughing

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