Post # 1
People are so opinionated. Rude comments also come from random people, not just picky family members. What have been some annoying comments people have made about your wedding, and how did you tell them with humor or a witty come-back that put them in their place?
My FI’s friend’s gf asked to see a pic of my dress. I showed her secretly at dinner (bec my MOH were talking about our shopping trip and wanted her to feel included), and a few days later the friend said that he knew all about the dress and was going to tell the groom. He is a jokester so he was most likely joking –but I shut him up by telling him that if my FI ends up knowing any details then he & his credit card we going to buy me another dress!
I feel that this can be very useful to the bees who were hounded when people weren’t satisfied with a beautiful dress that you have already paid for. Allow them to pay for another one. Suddenly the perspective is different if it were to come from their pocket.
Post # 3
Here are some additional annoying things I have heard. Why do most of them start with an “Oh….” ???
Ohhh, finally you are getting married. I was wondering if there was something wrong.
Oh –your getting married there???
Why a destination wedding? What’s wrong with a wedding here?
Oh, that’s trendy.
Post # 4
I am looking for witty sayings and situations that were handled with tact to help us bees out with all the negative and unsolicited opinions about our wedding day.
Post # 5
LOL Im probably just going to end up going off on someone! I already have but not in their face because they didnt tell me to my face. FSIL and FI were talking and FI told her we were having the wedding an hr and a half away. FSIL started saying things like she may not be able to afford to come. First of all, lets stop for a moment. Im having my wedding in the Dallas area. Everyone that knows TX, knows Dallas. Everyone down here goes to Dallas ALL the time, as she does too. She goes to party, she goes to visit relatives. No one have never been to Dallas at least once a year in their lives. People go all the time. We chose Dallas because we got a better deal there than our high priced town. Okay, so lets go back to the story. I told him “Oh she can go to Dallas to shop and party but she cant go for her brothers wedding, which I may add is a once in a lifetime event? The wedding is going to be there and I dont give a damn who doesnt like it. If they WANT to come, they will.” Im also going to add that shes a bridesmaid too. FI agreed and the story ended. He saw my point. I dont know if he spoke to her about anything else further but they know not to come and talk to me about anything. Im also getting people that are surprised that my wedding is not going to be religious or in a church… Well, FI and I are NOT a religious couple. The extended invitations that you have offered me to attend your church that I continously declined was not because I didnt like your church sweetie, its just that I do not attend church at all. We are having an outdoor under the Gazebo type of ceremony and the reception is indoors. My FILs (really some things his sister has had to say and his mother) really work my nerves. My mother has learned to shut her trap and allow me to enjoy my day and when I want her included, she will be there.
Post # 6
@lindseyl06: Most weddings about 1 hr away from home in the same state we live in end up being a destination wedding –with that I mean that family members end-up having to get a hotel room for a night or two, especially if they are in the wedding party.
Some people just like to complain about money when they are not spending it on themselves. Of course there are those that cannot truly afford it, but it sounds like she goes frequently. Our wedding is in Las Vegas. We have family from FL and NM that would have to fly in for a few days and get a hotel for a few nights anyway, so they are excited about a Vegas wedding.
I understand your point about the church wedding. I am more spiritual than religious, so I am not connected to any particular church, so getting married in one was not important to me. My mother became a justice of the peace when I was younger, and the catholic priest went off on her and told her that women should not be allowed to do such things. My mother was so offended and never went back to the catholic church. We attended several others but nothing stuck.
FI have that rule too –we handle our own families ourselves when they start to become annoying with their comments.
No witty comment for you —but perhaps an, “I am sorry you feel that way?” will work?
Or, “I love the gazebo. We are more spiritual than religious and feel more connected outside.”