Best Wedding Tips Now That You're Married

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Most helpful wedding tip: don’t overspend or go into debt for one day

Least helpful tip: Don’t DIY fresh flowers lol (this came from a florist not surprisingly).  It was actually one of the easiest DIYs of my entire wedding.

Post # 3
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1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

SurelyAsTheSunWillRise:  Do NOT let the planning of this ONE day take over the true meaning of the celebration.  In the end, you are marrying your husband, and committing to a lifetime with him!  It is truly amazing, and will be amazing whether you have $5 dress or a $5000 dress, real or fake flowers, open bar or cash bar, DJ or band!!  

I promise, the time between engagement and marriage day will fly by.  The day of will be over in a blink of an eye.  Truly enjoy these moment.  Plan within your budget, and do it the way you want it to be done 🙂  

That is my advice!!

Post # 5
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8917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

SurelyAsTheSunWillRise:  I’d say just make a conscious effort to CHILL and enjoy the day. Things are guaranteed to go wrong. You can either focus on those things and be all stressed and pissy, or you can just go with the flow and revel in the joy and the 99% of things that go well. It’s easier said than done and everyone thinks they won’t be that Bridezilla, but it seems to come out in most. 

Post # 6
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My tips are:

Don’t skimp on the photographer if you can help it! We did and it’s our biggest regret. 

If you have room in your budget hire a coordinator even if it’s just for the day. My coordinator was awesome! I couldn’t have imagined getting through the day as smoothly as we did without him.

Receiving lines are totally worth it and save you time later in the evening!

What I wish I knew before the wedding was how quickly the time truely flies! I scheduled 2.5 hours for photos prior to the ceremony and it just flew by so fast! Taking photos takes longer than you think!

Post # 7
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Photo Tip: If you come super-prepared to do your photos, they will not take nearly as long as you think. I downloaded and edited a list of photo requirements (like Mom, Dad & Bride or Groom’s Ring & Bride’s Ring together) to hand off to our photographer the day of the wedding. They literally just went down the list, taking two or three of each “requirement” (to make sure they got a good one). It was a LONG list but even though we only alloted an hour for photos, we were easily done in 45 minutes. On top of that, organizing who would get photographed when let us “dismiss” people to go enjoy cocktail hour when they were done. Like, we got all the parental ones done in 15 minutes and then sent them away. Super fast.

Timing Tip: Somehow, even though my trial took only 45 minutes, my make-up ended up taking nearly twice as long on the day of. I wish I had alloted myself more time for that, so I could have enjoyed it instead of mentally screaming HURRY UP at the girl.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

SurelyAsTheSunWillRise:  Time will pass quickly during the wedding so I suggest you do your best to relax and enjoy the day. My favorite memories are of me sitting with my guests and getting a chance to relax with each table. I know tons of people do a big send off to the honeymoon but I really enjoyed having a moment alone with my husband and parents at the end of the night. It was nice watching everyone leave and getting a chance to admire the end result of all our hard work. 

Post # 10
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2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

SurelyAsTheSunWillRise:  dont skimp on photography….the day goes by in such a flash and you dont remember a lot. Our photographer was amazing (and pricey lol) but she captured so many moments outside o fthe standard “posed” pictures that its like reliving the day itself.

Depending on what type of photos your going for….(more fun/artistic/journalistic, or like the standard posed…. you need to alot decent time for the former) For us we had an early cermeony cause it was a catholic church and someone already took the “late” spot at 2pm so we got married at 1230 and our reception wasnt until 5…..we were out of church just after 1pm and had until 4 before the limo was dropping us at the venue….we NEEDED every minute….she could have gone longer actually. BUT it flew by (we drove to a few diff locations), but I could not imagine not having the pics we did. Yes I think yo can bang out some good photos in an hour or so if your having just ceremony straight to cocktail hour, but you will NEED to have a specific list or else it will be a gong show.

Dont sweat the small stuff …. there are so many details I was fussing over the week of and when the day came I dont even think I noticed if they were there lol.

Dont be afraid to delegate!!!!!!!

Take a minute when your sat down at the reception to just look out at the room and think wow this is all for us

 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  shanbp.
Post # 12
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

schedule your day backwards and add time to EVERYTHING.  Things will almost always take longer than you think.

I knew I had to leave for my venue no later than 4:45 to make sure I was there for 5:30, I said I had to leave at 4:30.  My photographer was arriving at the hotel at 2:30, I had to be ready (except for dress and jewellery) for 2:15 etc…

I scheduled time to eat lunch.  Amazingly our hair appointments ened on time and I actually ended up taking a nap.  It felt like we had too much time (3 hours) from hair to photographer but I think if I hadn’t planned that hour of eating/chill time we would have felt rushed. 

Remember that everyone won’t be getting dressed at once, people help each other out.  So even though it should only take 15 minutes for your girls to get in their dresses and 30 minutes for makeup, give them an hour and a half (maybe not that long but you get the picture).

My biggest thing – good vendors make all the difference in the world.  I had an amazing caterer, fantastic photographer and our DJ was great.  Everything went perfectly.  There were a couple minor hiccups but none of it was a big deal.  One of my bridesmaids was appointed the contact person, all questions went through her and she had my phone all day.  It was amazing.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

SurelyAsTheSunWillRise:  Yes, I ATE…quickly, but I did.  One, our food was great, and two, I was starving (had not eaten in probably 10 hours), and wanted to get substinence in because we were drinking that evening as well.  

I have a bladder the size of a pea.  On top of drinking throughout the day, I also chugged a ton of water to stay hydrated.  So, I needed to pee…a lot.  A lot of brides will say that they never really went, because in the moment you do not focus on it, but I was not so fortunate.  I had my sisters help me, for the most part, and close friends sporadically as well.  I found in my a-line, all lace gown that sitting on the toiled facing the wall/away from the stall door was the easiest.  They would hold the back of my dress off the floor, and I would hold the front up.  They would hand me toilet paper, and I would wipe/flush.  They saw nothing, and I was completely fine, or probably was too happy to care 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

SurelyAsTheSunWillRise:  We ate. When people came up to us with their phones/cameras, we looked at them and made them wait until we were done chewing. If they went away, great. If not, then they stood their feeling awkward. But we ate everything on our plates and drank everything on our table. We never had time to go to the bar though, but never really needed to.

 

I was careful about my water intake before the ceremony and I didn’t have to go to the bathroom until we got to our hotel room. lol I was so proud of this.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My biggest wedding/wedding planning advice:

  1. Remember that you still have to sustain a life after the wedding so don’t go into debt over one day.
  2. Prioritize where you want to splurge. Our biggest splurge items were: honeymoon, photographer, and my dress.
  3. Have fun! If you do it right, the memories will make you smile on a random day.
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