Post # 1
Hello Everyone! I’ve been reading posts for a while and decided to sign up for a little advice.
I love my best friend to death, but he describes himself as “high maintenance”. I have asked him to be my friend of honor and stand by me at my wedding. The problem is that he has stated several times he is going to wear a white tux to “blend in”. With what, I have no idea.. I have talked to our other bestfriends, who are going to be my bridesmaids, and they have tried to help me persuade him against it. Saying that he will want to match their dresses and the groomsmen’s suits. (Their dresses are knee length, black, with turquoise sashes) But this has done nothing to disuade him. He still insists on wearing white. I don’t want to be conceited, but we are having a small wedding, and I would like to be the only one in white. I am unsure of how to bring it up again with him without him getting upset at me. And of course I would rather have him there in white, rather than not at all. (And I know he’s serious because he wore a white tux to his cousin’s wedding.)
Thanks for any help!
Post # 3
Wow! I would be having none of that! You’re absolutely not being conceited by wanting to be the only one in white! I’d try to explain that you would like to be the only one in white that day, seeing as you’re the bride and its your and your FI’s big day. Ask him how he thinks wearing white will “blend in” when the rest of the bridal party will NOT be wearing white and you two can figure out a way for him to subtly stand out as the “Friend of Honor”.
Post # 4
I would tell him: “I don’t want to be conceited, but we are having a small wedding, and I would like to be the only one in white.”
I think being direct is your best option.
Post # 5
Haha, blend in with what? I think you should explain that you are the bride and would like to be the only one in white. After all, you’re very close with him so I’m sure he’d understand and be a considerate friend. On a different note, my father wore a white tux to his wedding in 1984 and it was NOT a good look then and probably isn’t a good look now! Lol
Post # 6
He sounds a little ridiculous. It’s your wedding, so on that day, unfortunately for him, you’re the only one that gets to be high maintenance. I would tell him what he’s wearing and if he’s not okay with it, tell him he can come as a guest instead of being in the wedding party.
Post # 7
It’s your wedding day, you are allowed to tell him no – BUT (I can’t resist saying this) he certaintly won’t be mistaken for the bride…. he’s a man, not a woman wearing white….
Post # 8
As he is in the bridal party, you DO get the right to dictate what he wears. He sounds like he must have a strong personality (it takes one to wear a white tux), but if he is your BFF he should concede. It is your special day, and remind him that on his wedding day you will wear whatever he wants.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
He’s not going to blend in, he’s going to stand out. Not cool. Show him these responses if you need to- the bride should be the only one in white. End of story. 🙂
Post # 10
He should really understand that it’s your wedding and that you should be the only one wearing white…I would just explain it to him this way…I’m sure he’ll understand!
Post # 11
Just like everyone else has said…you’re not being rude or conceited to tell him you want to be wearing white, you’re the bride…nobody else should be wearing white, especially if they are standing nex to you! That will make him look like an attention-whore