Bestie's overseas wedding …should I go?

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Berry-b.: Can you reschedule your trip? Any fee you have to pay the airline for rescheduling would be less than the cost of another return trip.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Berry-b.:  What do you want to do? What is more important to you? Going to the wedding or going on vacation? A wedding takes like 5 hours (give or take) so you could still have a vacation if you go. Maybe it just ins’t the place you want to go?

Nobody is required to go to a BA party or a wedding so you have to make a choice on what those two events mean to you

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would just go to her bachelorette!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You need to figure out what is more important to you.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

For my best friend, I’d rearrange my trip to be there for her wedding.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d go. Even if you can only go for a few days. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Berry-b.:  Don’t worry about the bachelorette party yet, since you’re not sure where it’s going to be. I would go to the wedding. You may end up regretting it if you don’t go and you don’t necessarily need more than a week anyway. Because it’s a super long flight, I understand wanting more time, but it’s your best friend’s wedding.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with some PPs, for my “bestie” I would be at her wedding without a doubt. I would try and change my flight and put it toward her wedding.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Berry-b.:  I wouldn’t go. As I get older, I realise that witnessing the wedding – while nice – is not an essential. There’s usually someone who can’t get there.

Absolutely no way would I cut short the 1 month vacation.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

You can’t pay any fees in order to reschedule your tickets?  That sucks.  Are they transferrable?  Could you sell them to someone else and buy new tickets?  

Barring that, I’d find a way to take the time off and fly back.  Beg, borrow, steal vacation from next year, take unpaid leave, whatever. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d go, even if it’s just a short trip.  I wouldn’t worry about the bachelorette, though.

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