Post # 1
My closest friend of 15 years is getting married in France to a wonderful Frenchman. I’m a travel fanatic and but the problem is, their wedding will take place 4 months after I return from a 1 month holiday in Europe! Yes, she got engaged and decided after I booked my trip.
I’m struggling to decide between witnessing the marriage of my bestie or missing it …as I can only take one week off work. On top of that, it would be 2 stopovers either way and the bachelorette MIGHT also be overseas!
Just more curious about other peoples’ opinions … Should I just go to the bachelorette? Or just the wedding? Or neither?
Post # 3
@Berry-b.: Can you reschedule your trip? Any fee you have to pay the airline for rescheduling would be less than the cost of another return trip.
Post # 4
@Berry-b.: What do you want to do? What is more important to you? Going to the wedding or going on vacation? A wedding takes like 5 hours (give or take) so you could still have a vacation if you go. Maybe it just ins’t the place you want to go?
Nobody is required to go to a BA party or a wedding so you have to make a choice on what those two events mean to you
Post # 5
I would just go to her bachelorette!
Post # 6
You need to figure out what is more important to you.
Post # 7
For my best friend, I’d rearrange my trip to be there for her wedding.
Post # 8
@julies1949: Boohoo, no rescheduling permitted as my initial europe tickets are sales fares! Got them at almost half the original price.
Post # 9
@sostobe: I would too…but I can’t! The tickets are non-refundable.
Post # 10
I’d go. Even if you can only go for a few days.
Post # 11
@Berry-b.: Don’t worry about the bachelorette party yet, since you’re not sure where it’s going to be. I would go to the wedding. You may end up regretting it if you don’t go and you don’t necessarily need more than a week anyway. Because it’s a super long flight, I understand wanting more time, but it’s your best friend’s wedding.
Post # 12
I agree with some PPs, for my “bestie” I would be at her wedding without a doubt. I would try and change my flight and put it toward her wedding.
Post # 13
@Berry-b.: I wouldn’t go. As I get older, I realise that witnessing the wedding – while nice – is not an essential. There’s usually someone who can’t get there.
Absolutely no way would I cut short the 1 month vacation.
Post # 14
You can’t pay any fees in order to reschedule your tickets? That sucks. Are they transferrable? Could you sell them to someone else and buy new tickets?
Barring that, I’d find a way to take the time off and fly back. Beg, borrow, steal vacation from next year, take unpaid leave, whatever.
Post # 15
I’d go, even if it’s just a short trip. I wouldn’t worry about the bachelorette, though.
Post # 16
@paula1248: Agreed but this is one couple I feel especially close to. I was there when they first met!