(Closed) Bestman not coming to the wedding, and groomsman MIA 18 days before the wedding

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2765 posts
Sugar bee

How many groomsmen are left?  And how many bridesmaids do you have?

Post # 5
1428 posts
Bumble bee

Are you worried about having an uneven bridal party? If so, then I would say don’t stress about it. I’ve been to a few weddings with an uneven Bridal Party and it’s been totally fine. At my friends’ wedding a few years ago they had 9 BM’s & 12 GM’s and it was awesome. With 6 men and 7 ladies, for your group pics it would look really cute alternating starting with one of the BM’s. As for recessing down the aisle after your ceremony, you could have the best man walk either alone or escort 2 of the bridesmaids, then pair up the others.

Post # 7
19 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh that really stinks. I have never heard of that happening! I hope that nothing else changes. That seems really odd for them to do that. Good Luck with the rest of the wedding and if anyone else quits, oh I would let them hear it!!

Post # 8
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ugh this sounds like a nightmare I am so sorry! It really drives me crazy when people commit and then flake out on stuff at the last minute. It’s just so rude and self-absorbed. I’m referring here more to the party situation than the whole VISA thing, although why he wouldn’t have had them put the credit in your name is ridiculous. I’m hoping and praying that my girls and my FI’s guys come through because personally I’ve bent over backwards for my brides in the past every time I’ve been asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man because that’s what you take on when you agree to it and if I don’t get that back from mine, it’s Bridezilla time for reals.

Post # 9
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

This is a nightmare! I feel really badly for your Fiance…hope he’s doing all right! I would be furious and sad if it were my friends flaking out on me left and right.

I say just put on a happy face and forget about it and have a good day with an uneven bridal party.

Post # 10
101 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t understand when this happens to guys.  All they have to pay for (well, other than an airline ticket in your case) is a tux and then a bachelor party.  Women have to pay for a dress, shoes, hair, makeup, nails, bridal shower, bachelorette party, accessories, and the list goes on.  He should have been a man about it and told them to credit you for the amount and not just kept it with the hopes that one day he’ll be able to pay you back.  That’s what most people would have done.  And if he was that strapped for cash, he shouldn’t have said yes to your FH when he asked him to be his best man.  I’m sorry you’re going through all of this!  You don’t need to have this hassle on top of everything you have to worry about as a bride!

Post # 11
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You poor thing! my Fiance has two best friends. He was considering either as his Best man. The one hes known the longest, I honestly talked him out of because he’s not reliable. His other best friend, who mind you live in CA and we’re in NY, would WALK her to get to our wedding! The guy he’s known longer told us he probably won’t be able to make it because of money reasons and my Fiance is glad that he won’t be in because in the back of his mind, he knew. Our wedding party on the guys side consists of his best friend, my BIL, my very good friend, my brother and my cousin. I made sure that we had enough dependable people who loved us and would be there come h-e-double hockey stick or high water. I really hope everything works out for you guys! Good luck!

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