- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I need a little bit of advice here, as I am a month away from my wedding without a hair dresser… So I’ve posted about this before, but my wedding is in the middle of nowhere Normandy. So far all the vendors have been great despite the lack of choice and control I have – wine, food, flowers, tent, all seem to be fine…the only problem I’ve had is with the hair dresser. My MIL recommended him, mostly because there is only one hair salon in town. The first trial was awful, it looked nothing like the picture and was messy. I blamed myself for not speaking up more and was waiting to see if there was a method to his madness, but after two hours he ran out of time when I tried to correct him. For the sake of keeping the peace and making thing easier I went back to see him again, equiped with better French vocabulary to explain what I wanted and was more quick to say when I didn’t like what he was doing. The picture I gave him isn’t that complicated, but he could literally not see how it is constructed. Literally all he had to do was cross the top, curl, and let it hang long…but he kept trying to pin up my hair in 1980’s prom style hair. At this point it was four hours with the same picture, and he was visably stressed out that he couldn’t get it. I just don’t trust that he’ll get it on my wedding day, as his style is just messy. I have to fire him, and my MIL was not very pleased about this – she kept trying to tell me it was close enough, but I just don’t want to compromise on this one. Here is the picture, it’s really not that hard:
Anyways, I now am scrambling for someone else, and got two promising recommendations:
The first one is a recommendation from my photographer. The hair stylist lives about 35 minutes away by car, but it is not a problem for her to drive to the house the day of the wedding. She is only availble from 8:30 to 10 (wedding is at 5pm) because she has another wedding to go to in a nearby town. To do the test and the day of is 200 euros, and I’m still negotiating if she can at least come down the night before and put my hair in curlers so we don’t have to worry about curling my thick hair and styling it in an hour. Using her also would mean my bridesmaids would have to do their own hair, or us the guy who was stuck in the 1980s which I do not recommend….
The other person is really, really tempting. She is recommended by a friend, based in Paris, and speaks English! I wouldn’t have to waste a whole weekend to get a hair trial! She would come up for the day and be all mine – she would do my hair, my bridal party’s hair, maybe my makeup on a more professional level too which I need to discuss further (I found someone to do my makeup and it’s pretty and if the hair dresser worked out I wouldn’t try to change her, but being from California I want something a little more intense like fake eyelashes or makeup that is more likely to stay on my face for the whole day…I feel like I could have done what she did, but she only charges 20 euros). The catch is…because I would be taking her out of the salon in Paris for the day, she cost 500 euros! It’s a flat rate with everything and everyone I want included, but that seems like a lot of money. But it would be so much less stressful to use her….
To add to it all, my FI was helping my translate my email to the French hairstylist, and flipped when he saw she cost 200 euros. We got into an argument because we can afford that price, and as a lot of my family will only see the pictures I don’t want to compromise on how I look on my wedding day, and he should want me to feel comfortable (cause I am compromising on a lot of other things). I know that he’d die if I told him about the 500 euros — for the most part he doesn’t want to know how much my look for the day costs, but now that I do know I feel bad going for the 500 euros.