Post # 1
We are having a Destination Wedding but my parents are generously hosting a traditional reception for my Fiance and me two weeks after our wedding in our hometown. It will be big – we’re expecting 250-300 people. My parents are providing beer and wine for the guests (in addition to soda and coffee), but not hard alcohol. They are fine with having a cash bar available for guests, just in case someone has to have some kind of cocktail. But I am unsure if the cash bar is necessary. I think beer, wine and soda is enough. Personally I wouldn’t be offended to go to a alcohol-free reception, much less one without hard alcohol. And I worry that the cash bar will look bad. What do you think??
Post # 3
I don’t think that a cash bar in necessary. Beer and wine are fine for pretty much all guests.
Post # 4
wine and beer is enough… 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I clicked the wrong choice accidentally. I think that beer and wine are fine, so ignore that one vote about having to pay for the whole bar. 🙂
Post # 6
well lets see…i think beer wine and soda is fine! but if you did decide to go with a cash bar also, there is nothing wrong with that!! you have alcohol offered for free too so it’s up to your guests 🙂
Post # 7
It seems to me that a cash bar might be a regional/small town/something-or-other thing?
I’ve only been to small town weddings (4 total) and every single one has had a cash bar with supplemental free beer and wine…. So, in other words, if you want a cash bar, I think it’s fine. But I also think beer, wine and soda is enough if you want to go that route as well!
Post # 8
Thanks for all of the quick feedback! If we do have the cash bar for cocktails, should we post a sign or something that says, “Wine & Beer are complimentary” so that people read between the lines that they’ll have to pay for their own cocktails???
Post # 9
Just serve the beer, wine and soda. If anyone doesn’t like beer or wine, which many people do not, they will drink soda. A cash bar is generally considered rude under any circumstances since guests are being asked to open their wallets at the reception. If the hosts can’t afford something or don’t want to pay for it, it should not be offered at all.
Post # 10
I think just wine and beer are fine. I think most people would be happy with that.
If you do go the cash bar route, you could make a nice little sign that says, “Wine & Beer- Complimentary. Cocktails- $____” and put it in a frame on your bar. Also, your bartender will be able to inform guests that cocktails are available for cash.
Post # 11
Echoing the beer and wine sentiment. I think that is plenty and then you dont have to worry about people not knowing ahead of time/not having proper cash.
Post # 12
Wine and beer is good. cant let guest get picky either!!
Post # 13
We are having a totally dry wedding, with fun Mocktails, so I think Beer, Wine and Soda is a great option.
Post # 14
If you know you will have important guests that like a certain drink and would have no problem paying for it themselves, then I think you should go for the cash bar. If your grandfather always drinks scotch, I think it would be important to have it as an option for him. I wouldn’t care so much about random other guests.
I’ve been to a wedding where one dark beer was offered, and there was no cash bar, so I didn’t drink, and I still had a great time. I understood that my friends didn’t drink, so I wasn’t upset that they didn’t have alcohol available, other than the one dark beer the groom likes.
At the same time, I’m definitely not offended by a cash bar, and sometimes would rather pay for the drink I want than drink something I don’t really want just because it is free.
Post # 15
Cna you maybe compromise and have beer, wine, a signature cocktail and a champagne toast or something like that?
If you do decide to have the beer and wine, and a cash bar I think it would be very nice to specify that the beer and wine are free. I know I am always frustrating trying to figure that out at weddings.
Post # 16
I’m planning to offer complimentary wine, beer and sodas, with a cash bar for hard liquor. Mainly because I like options and don’t mind paying extra to have exactly what I want (even if I’m a guest somewhere). And if people can’t afford, or don’t want to pay, for other drinks, you still have plenty of options available in the complimentary section.
And thanks to the bees for the signage idea – now I have another DIY to add to the list!