(Closed) Beyonce and Gaga not allowed. Am i unreasonable?

posted 6 years ago in Music
Post # 3
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i like the top 40 stuff but your day… your music ๐Ÿ™‚ when your sister gets married she can play gaga all night long

maybe let her go through the artists you like and pick out some songs?

Post # 4
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

It’s whatever you want, personally I’d play a couple popular songs and move on with the rest of the reception, I just wouldn’t see it as a big deal.

Post # 5
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think it’s perfectly fine and very common to veto certain songs from your setlist.  I had a DJ and he actually asked for a list of songs to not play. 

in addition to pop music, I also vetoed the chicken dance, the marcarena and the electric slide!


Post # 6
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I say its your wedding, play what you want. You know your guests better than your sister so it sounds like you have it well thought out. That being said, you could play maybe a few songs to make the “Beyonce crowd” happy. I played very few pop songs and stuck to the golden oldies and people loved it.

Post # 7
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Your day, your way. Period, end of story!

I have to say, I love the music selection you have come up with, though ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
1426 posts
Bumble bee

Your wedding, do what you please.  Personally, I asked the band to play the classics that everyone likes and will get them on the dance floor.  They had a good mixture and the dance floor was full (at least everytime I saw it, lol).   The only time I’ve ever been “dissastisfied” with the kind of music that was played was when a DJ played every.single.song completely technoed out.  Terrible.

Post # 9
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d give in on one or two, I don’t see how its worth an argument. Could be worse, I was pressured into playing the Cupid Shuffle

Post # 10
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We have all those pop folks on our Do Not Play list… it’s your party, so it should reflect you!

Post # 11
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Eh. If you don’t want to play it, don’t. Simple as that. You do have a right to just say no.

If you want her off your back, you could always just include 1 or 2 songs to appease the 15 people who want that. Just pick a couple of the most tolerable ones for you and include them in with your picks.

Post # 12
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree that it’s your wedding and it’s absolutely your right to have whatever music you like ๐Ÿ™‚ buuut…

If you want people to dance, I think you might have to put some top 40 stuff in there. I only know of like two of the artists you mentioned, and if I was a guest I probably wouldn’t dance.

Again, this is 100% up to you and whatever decision you make you should absolutely not feel bad about. But I’ll give you my experience FWIW. At first, I thought nobody would really be dancing at our wedding and I wanted more indie/folk sounding music, but at the insistence of friends and family members we ended up putting a lot of top 40 type music on our playlist. It was such a huge hit! The dance floor was full all night. Darling Husband and I even ended up dancing all night and we never ever dance. The biggest hits for us were “Party Rock Anthem” by LMFAO, “Low” by Flo-Rida, “Party in the USA” by Miley Cyrus, and “Baby One More Time” by Britney Spears. Even the older crowd that I didn’t think would dance (great aunts and uncles) were on the dance floor all night. 

Again, I think it just depends on what you’re going for. What are you envisioning for the night? I don’t know those artists, so I can’t really picture it the way you can. I think though, if you want the masses to dance, you’re going to have to cater to the masses, at least a liiitle bit ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 13
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Nope, we’re not playing any kind of “current” pop music either. We can’t stand it in our everyday lives so why would we play it at our wedding? We’re playing lots of motown and 80s hits that are fun to dance to, so people should still be able to dance, just no sexy sweaty club dancing or whatever you want to call the “dancing” that goes along with pop music today. (LOL that makes me sound like such an old fart. Kids these days *grumble grumble*)

Post # 14
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Totally fine. We aren’t playing that stuff, either. (If I have to hear Single Ladies one more time at at wedding I might shoot myself). Not that I have anything against Beyonce, I just get sick of a lot of top 40/pop songs that I already hear enough of in my daily life.

You’ve already got some pretty dance-able music on your list, but I have one suggestion: old school hip hop is usually a happy compromise between music snobs and top 40 lovers.

Post # 15
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@swanks4tw:  agreed – never thought I would be up dancing to that stuff but FH’s work Christmas party made a liar of me – we danced our asses off to all kinds of top 40 stuff I normally only heard when walking by teeny clothing stores. I’ll be having a bunch of it in our ipod!!

Post # 16
2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think that since it’s your wedding, you do what you want!

For me, while I like most of the bands that you listed, none of them really make me want to get up and shake my bootie. You might need to include some Top 40 in there just be safe. 

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