Post # 1
Am I being a meanie? (i wrote b*tch/ bridezilla, but i hate both those terms)
My sister is hassling me about not wanting to play “current pop hits” at our wedding. She thinks i should play Beyonce, Shakira, Miley Cyrus, Rihanna, Katie Perry, Gaga etc, but I dislike all of those muscians. I will be playing Radiohead, Elbow, Tennis, Ryan Adams, Black Keys, Yeaayer, Local Natives, Bruce Springsteen, Steely Dan, Led Zeppelin, plus 80s hits like Dexys Midnight runners, Violent Femmes, Blondie… etc.
I thought that would please everyone, but obviously not.
I have like 120 guests and only 15 are let’s just say “beyonce loving age”. I have older people there, and some younger who dont care and won’t dance.
Am I being unreasonable? How do you say shut up, it’s my wedding without being a selfish “bridezilla”? (gosh i hate that term..)
ps- we arent having a DJ… ipod with speakers…
Sorry i meant to post this in the Music category..
Post # 3
i like the top 40 stuff but your day… your music 🙂 when your sister gets married she can play gaga all night long
maybe let her go through the artists you like and pick out some songs?
Post # 4
It’s whatever you want, personally I’d play a couple popular songs and move on with the rest of the reception, I just wouldn’t see it as a big deal.
Post # 5
I think it’s perfectly fine and very common to veto certain songs from your setlist. I had a DJ and he actually asked for a list of songs to not play.
in addition to pop music, I also vetoed the chicken dance, the marcarena and the electric slide!
Post # 6
I say its your wedding, play what you want. You know your guests better than your sister so it sounds like you have it well thought out. That being said, you could play maybe a few songs to make the “Beyonce crowd” happy. I played very few pop songs and stuck to the golden oldies and people loved it.
Post # 7
Your day, your way. Period, end of story!
I have to say, I love the music selection you have come up with, though 😉
Post # 8
Your wedding, do what you please. Personally, I asked the band to play the classics that everyone likes and will get them on the dance floor. They had a good mixture and the dance floor was full (at least everytime I saw it, lol). The only time I’ve ever been “dissastisfied” with the kind of music that was played was when a DJ played every.single.song completely technoed out. Terrible.
Post # 9
I’d give in on one or two, I don’t see how its worth an argument. Could be worse, I was pressured into playing the Cupid Shuffle
Post # 10
We have all those pop folks on our Do Not Play list… it’s your party, so it should reflect you!
Post # 11
Eh. If you don’t want to play it, don’t. Simple as that. You do have a right to just say no.
If you want her off your back, you could always just include 1 or 2 songs to appease the 15 people who want that. Just pick a couple of the most tolerable ones for you and include them in with your picks.
Post # 12
I agree that it’s your wedding and it’s absolutely your right to have whatever music you like 🙂 buuut…
If you want people to dance, I think you might have to put some top 40 stuff in there. I only know of like two of the artists you mentioned, and if I was a guest I probably wouldn’t dance.
Again, this is 100% up to you and whatever decision you make you should absolutely not feel bad about. But I’ll give you my experience FWIW. At first, I thought nobody would really be dancing at our wedding and I wanted more indie/folk sounding music, but at the insistence of friends and family members we ended up putting a lot of top 40 type music on our playlist. It was such a huge hit! The dance floor was full all night. Darling Husband and I even ended up dancing all night and we never ever dance. The biggest hits for us were “Party Rock Anthem” by LMFAO, “Low” by Flo-Rida, “Party in the USA” by Miley Cyrus, and “Baby One More Time” by Britney Spears. Even the older crowd that I didn’t think would dance (great aunts and uncles) were on the dance floor all night.
Again, I think it just depends on what you’re going for. What are you envisioning for the night? I don’t know those artists, so I can’t really picture it the way you can. I think though, if you want the masses to dance, you’re going to have to cater to the masses, at least a liiitle bit 🙂
Post # 13
Nope, we’re not playing any kind of “current” pop music either. We can’t stand it in our everyday lives so why would we play it at our wedding? We’re playing lots of motown and 80s hits that are fun to dance to, so people should still be able to dance, just no sexy sweaty club dancing or whatever you want to call the “dancing” that goes along with pop music today. (LOL that makes me sound like such an old fart. Kids these days *grumble grumble*)
Post # 14
Totally fine. We aren’t playing that stuff, either. (If I have to hear Single Ladies one more time at at wedding I might shoot myself). Not that I have anything against Beyonce, I just get sick of a lot of top 40/pop songs that I already hear enough of in my daily life.
You’ve already got some pretty dance-able music on your list, but I have one suggestion: old school hip hop is usually a happy compromise between music snobs and top 40 lovers.
Post # 15
@swanks4tw: agreed – never thought I would be up dancing to that stuff but FH’s work Christmas party made a liar of me – we danced our asses off to all kinds of top 40 stuff I normally only heard when walking by teeny clothing stores. I’ll be having a bunch of it in our ipod!!
Post # 16
I think that since it’s your wedding, you do what you want!
For me, while I like most of the bands that you listed, none of them really make me want to get up and shake my bootie. You might need to include some Top 40 in there just be safe.