Post # 1
Ive seen threads like this before but had to post bc I’m just annoyed. My best friend whom I’ve known since 12 years old (and lost contact with for over 10 years then she found me on Facebook) has has a ring since she’s gotten married (under 10 years now). Anyhow, when I was shopping for a ring with my FI few months back, she texted me a pic of her ring. Everyone has different taste. Her ring is bulky, and very thick. It’s a 1 carat solitaire with elongated baguettes on the side. I have a 4.75 finger so that would look odd on my hand plus it’s not my taste. Butthat’s ok. I love dainty, petite thin bands, with a halo and cushion cut shape. But again, if she loves her ring, that’s fine! It’s her taste. Well, fast forward, she told me that her husband told her to go buy a new ring For their early 10th anniversary…she texted me last night saying she found a ring…and stated “for some reason, it looks just like yours!” Pause…I was confused. Her taste is complete opposite of mine. Basically, her ring is exactly like mine but round halo, not cushion cut. She copied my ring and its almost exactly like mine. Then she not so much bragged but told me it was $14,000 for the ring. It’s white gold, 1.54 carat and GIA was to sell it at $27,000 but she went through EGL. The part that I’m annoyed is the ring she chose to create looks exactly like mine but its round vs cushion cut. Btw, she named her daughter maddie after I named my daughter Maddy, which she knew my daughters name at the age of 4. I should be honored but I’m not. I’m annoyed bc of all cuts, style, make, material, she replicates mine. Ever since she saw my ring, she’s drooled over it which was fine with me… I just didn’t think she’d copy it for her own. And for planning my wedding, she’s been telling me what time and day bc it’s not convenient for her…..
Post # 3
Im sorry but a round halo is NOT a cushion shaped halo. AND if you haven’t seen her for 10 years, why would you care what she named her daughter or what she buys? She’s had her ring for 10 years, who knows what her tastes were then, from the time frame, you weren’t around to know if she picked it herself or received it and always hated it.. that doesn’t mean she can’t like something completely different now. Move on!
Post # 4
If someone was copying my major life choices, like my child’s name, I’d cut them off. That’s creepy behavior.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
seriously, who cares? It’s not like you custom designed a completely unique ring- when you pick a popular style, other people are going to have the same style. Take it as a compliment that she liked your ring.
Post # 6
GIA wants to sell it for $27k so she went through EGL? Wut?
It doesn’t work that way.
Post # 7
@blingbling: that’s why I said the only diff is its round vs cushion cut. She said a few months ago when she texted me her ring that that is the style she has always loved And that she picked it out herself. She said mine is gorgeous and she drooled but said its not her style. We haven’t seen each other for 10 years and then reconnected in the last 5 years. So I do care what she does bc we became close again after reconnecting. These things weren’t typed bc it was too much to type. So that is why I am annoyed.
Post # 8
My best friend just named her baby Emma even though she KNEW I had that name picked out since I was a kid. She justified it because her DH had a dream that they called the baby Emma…. This wouldn’t be SO bad if it was for the fact that she alwas seems like she is in CONSTANT competition with me, so I TOTALLY understand what you are going through.
But, her having a similar ring doesn’t take away any specialness from your ring. If anything its sad she can’t have her own taste and just copies yours. Its kind of sad for her.
Post # 9
@strawbabies: This. That’s super creep.
@cmbr: aaaaaand this. EGL and GIA are gemological grading standards (labs). They don’t determine prices at all.
Post # 10
I can see how the ring thing would be annoying considering everything else. Normally I would say that the ring thing is no big deal. But between copying two major things (ring and kids name) and also trying to make you plan your wedding around her it sounds like she is very competative and a bit self-absorbed.
Post # 11
Sometimes I think I know what I love, but I try to keep an open mind and try on all sorts of styles when I’m shopping for something important. Oftentimes, what I actually end up picking is completely different from what I consider my style – maybe that’s what happened to her? She has a different typical style, but fell in love with the ring she picked when she tried it on. It might have nothing to do with your ring – or the beauty of your ring may have just opened her eyes to the style.
I guess I don’t really see the issue. However, about telling you when to get married? Nope – not her decision!
Post # 12
@strawbabies: yeah, didn’t they make a movie about this….Single White Female.
Post # 13
@cmbr: I thought the same thing
Post # 14
@SweetartMD: that’s the thing, she’s in constant competition with me and I don’t care for that. I’ve always overlooked it but this was just like the icing
Post # 15
Yes normally I wouldn’t be annoyed but given the circumstances that I just couldn’t type everything, I am. And I just didn’t understand how the EGL and GIA came into effect bc they can’t set the price for you. When I asked her some questions, she was not specific or she avoided the question. I guess bc she was so against my type ring for herself then ended up with almost exact replica, I feel the way I do.
Post # 16
um halos are super popular right now, a round halo and a cushion look totally different and really who the heck cares? If you don’t like her, don’t be friends with her. But, this is super petty and high-school.