Beyond devastated- our venue cancelled

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just breathe. Your money isn’t wasted because they should be returning your deposit if they are canceling on you. Have you talked about that with them?

Post # 3
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

They’re not refunding your deposit? 

I’m so sorry! 

Post # 4
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If THEY cancel on you, I’m pretty sure they’ll have to return your deposit.

You’ll need to act quickly, but you can salvage your reception/ceremony. Just keep in mind the only thing that matters is marrying your fiance.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

shawna.darling4:  Why do you say your photographer and reception venue are void because the ceremony venue cancelled? Surely you can find somewhere else for the ceremony? Or even hold it at the reception site.

Ditto for accomodations, unless they are literally the only ones in existence.

Post # 8
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1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

shawna.darling4:  Would you be able to get married at your reception location? If I read correctly, that wasn’t one of the vendors that cancelled on you guys. It may not be the wedding you wanted, but it is possible to salvage things if you can do this.

Also, you aren’t overreacting about this. It would be upsetting for anyone to have this happen just a few months out. Just try to breathe and tomorrow night talk things over with your FI. See if there is anything that can be done or any plan you guys can come up with together.

Post # 9
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You didn’t do anything. Donuts to dollars they got another affair for a higher price. 

I know you feel awful now, and that’s OK. Wallow for a day or 2. But your feelings can and will change. 

Post # 10
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1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

shawna.darling4:  Don’t you start blaming yourselves. If anything you should consider yourselves lucky – do you guys really want to give your money and business to people who treat their customers like this? What if they hadn’t told you now and had waited until two months out or one month out? Take a breath and remember that you have time to work out an alternate plan.

Post # 11
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567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Calm down and breathe. There’s a lot of time before your wedding to fix things. Normally you don’t even book anything else until you have a deposit down on your venue and some sort of contract. But in this case, I seriously doubt that the photographer and reception site folks will be completely unwilling to work with you. Have you talked to them about it yet? Don’t assume the worst. I felt the same way when I realized my wedding dress wouldn’t fit and couldn’t be made to fit and then it turned out to be a lot of worry about nothing because they did a clean exchange for the same dress in the right size. 

Post # 12
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1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Advice from a 45 year old bride to be… have a good cry then sleep on it.  You will have 2 choices tomorrow. 

1. Don’t get married, don’t wear your ring, and don’t plan any further. 

2. Figure something out and go forward.   

Only you can make the choice.  

Post # 13
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1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If your date of April 2015 is correct you have 7 months to find a new ceremony site. its a little dramatic to say you don’t have the strength to move forward. It is what you make it and if you choose to keep crying about it, you’ll never find a new site. 

Yes it’s sad they cancelled on you but you didn’t have any deposits signed so they don’t have to hold a date. Maybe they just can’t accommodate your wedding or they booked another the same day. I’m not sure why you’d think it was something you did. Cry about it tonight and wake up tomorrow and move on to plan your wedding. You’re surely not going to cancel all together because of this, are yoy?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Take a breath. Then take another.

I had my first ceremony/venue cancel on me as well. Although I have spent a bit more than planned, it’s going to be just fine. We found a better venue, one that includes a lot of things we wouldn’t have gotten otherwise. You can do this.

A wedding is one day…it’s the marriage that’s important.

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