(Closed) BEYOND disappointed in myself

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mrswestcoast:  You don’t have to be on a diet for the rest of your life but you really have to change your lifestyle.

As we age, certain foods are not handled by our bodies the way they were when our metabolism was running faster.

You can still eat all the foods you like but make sure you do it in moderation etc..

That’s just life.

This is why diets don’t work…. diets make you loose but then you gain it back, faster and sometimes you get to a heavier weight then before. If you alter your lifestyle with your body in mind, you will have a much higher success.

Post # 4
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrswestcoast:  Aw, please don’t be so hard on yourself!  I think it’s pretty normal to gain weight after the wedding.  I’ve gained back the 10 lbs I lost and I’m starting to work towards losing it again too!  We got married in October and between finally having a moment to breathe after the wedding, then holidays, then birthdays then Easter it’s so hard to eat healthy!

I think the best thing to do is set small goals for yourself and work up.  Personally, I don’t think of eating healthy as being “on a diet”.  I enjoy eating healthy foods.  I feel absolutely terrible when I’m eating things with lots of fat and calories.  Now that it’s spring time it’s getting easier to find fresh, yummy produce to cook with and eat.  Just work on getting back in to some kind of routine and you will be fine!!! <3

Post # 5
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I read a book once that said studies show that the majority of people who lose a lot of weight gain most of it back.  So don’t feel TOO bad…you’re not the only one.

That being said, the first step I would follow is to get RID OF PROCESSED FOOD in your diet. That’s a no-brainer.  Other than that, I assume you know what to do.  Just do it!!  You have to change your habits, not just starve yourself for a while.

Post # 6
304 posts
Helper bee

Definitely make it a pact to work together with your husband! Hold each other accountable and serve as motivation for each other to be healthy TOGETHER.  You can start small — eat out less, or if you want to maintain your eating out… try eating only half your portion at the restaurant (they’re so big!) and taking the other half home for dinner the following day.

Focus on your diet (that’s a huge reason why you’re maintaining or gaining weight).  Go for proteins, vegetables, non processed foods.  No fast food for sure.  Eliminate soda from your diet.

Definitely make sure you are drinking water.  Hydration helps to maintain good bodily fucntion and aids in weight loss.

Do not beat yourself up too much.  If you lost the weight before, you know you can do it again!  Good luck.

Post # 7
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Also, if you’re not active, try to get active, preferably with some strength training – increasing your lean muscle mass will raise your resting metabolic rate.

Post # 10
1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@mrswestcoast:  I’m just writing to give sympathy. I hate how easy it is gain and how f*cking hard it is to lose πŸ™ I feel your pain.

Post # 12
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Story of my life. I was doing soooo well with exercising every day, then I got stressed with my dress debacle, and I had my bachelorette and bridal shower – late nights, hangover, booze – bottom line, no workouts for a few days now. I swear I will get back into it, but why can’t I stop exercising occasionally, yet keep myself from chowing down on everything in the house!?? I also have that all-or-none thinking, and it’s not very helpful!!!

Get yourself back to the gym, keep looking at pictures of you when you were at an ideal weight, etc. Do whatever it takes to motivate yourself!!! 

Post # 13
3184 posts
Sugar bee

@mrswestcoast:  I’ve lost 20 lbs in the course of 3 years and managed to gain back 5 lbs within a few months of moving in with FH. Like you, I was eating too much processed foods and copying his eating habits which included large portion sizes (he is 6’1″ and over 230 lbs, I am 5’0″ and around 135 lbs) and lots and lots of bread. I was also in love and lazy.

These are the changes I’ve made since the initial shock;

  • Eat salad almost every day for lunch.
  • Get at least 3 days of cardio in.
  • Strenght train.
  • Eat less.
  • Ban the dinner bread.
  • Still eat what I crave but in moderation.

So far, I can physically tell there’s a change. I am basically going back to more of the lifestyle I lived BEFORE moving in with him and adapting his habits. His response to my weight gain is, “That’s strange, I’ve been losing weight.” (Besides, you look beautiful of course). Life is simply not fair.

Post # 15
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MRSsrm85:  Don’t you hate how men lose weight so easily????

Last winter my Fiance went away for 3 months on a research trip. I was like, okay, I’ve got the house to myself, I ate better and exercised every single day. I lost 13 lbs and felt like I looked better. Well Fiance comes back from his trip, and he’d lost allll kinds of weight. What did he do? He says he just ate less bread. No working out, no major effort, just ate less bread. Jerk. lol
So when we’d go out and see friends who we hadn’t seen since befor he’d left, no one mentioned anything about my weight loss, but all they could go on about was how wonderful my Fiance looked and how much weight he’d lost. Pretty frustrating!! 

Post # 16
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

hum… did you gain the weight that quickly? You know, the week before I get my period I always gain like 5 pounds, and then drop them after i had my period, its normal for your weight to flutuate a little. Are you sure is not it?

My best advice for people trying to lose weight is: water, water water

Makes everything work better inside and outside, and really helps your metabolism. i’m nota salad fan, so I normally eat steamed veggies with whole wheat pasta in it, so I don’t get hungry. I also ditch sodas as coffee, and basically life of veggies, beans, lentils, and whole grains, tofu and soy πŸ˜› (I’m a vegetarian).


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