Beyond the boundaries of tradition

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
7915 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ladies around here pick out their own rings all the time! I’ve certainly given less than subtle hints. No wrong way to do it !

Post # 4
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Shopping together for an ERing is not something new, altho since the Internet it is a lot more known thing.

People have been doing it for decades.

My Ex-H and I shopped together when I was married the first time (circa 1980)

Many people do this… the guy tells the girl his budget, and they go to find a ring she likes and looks good on her finger.

In some cases they buy it right there… in others, he takes her likes under recommendation and buys the ring on his own and presents it to her with The Proposal

When it comes to Proposals & Rings there are truly 1000s of ways that people do this.

No one is better than another

And traditions and customs can also vary from place to place (regional – local) not just by country.

Hope this helps,

PS… This time round, Mr TTR & I also shopped together.  And again, it was a fabulous experience !!


Post # 5
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

A LOT of the ladies here picked out their rings! I think more have than haven’t!

But I’m SO glad you had a great experience!

Post # 6
7030 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@This Time Round:  I agree. It’s not all that uncommon. We went ring shopping together after he proposed; and at least one of my friends did the same.

Post # 7
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I don’t think it’s unheard of now? I’m going to look at rings with my bf tomorrow : ) I have no idea what I want, I change my mind on a daily basis so it’s better for both of us to look, and I can try on some! Woo.

Congrats on finding your ring : )

Post # 8
2687 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@Lilycat:  it’s not uncommon or unheard of at all. I picked out my own ring, including my center stone. I don’t think it’s bad. I want to love something that I have to wear everyday for the rest of my life. 

Post # 9
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Lilycat:  At first we went shopping together to get an “idea” of what I liked (I don’t wear rings so I didn’t know) and my SO was going to actually pick the ring.  The more we looked at rings, the more we both realized that I’m pretty particular.  SO wanted me to LOVE my ring, so we went to every jewelry store in town until I finally found a ring I LOVED (since I would be wearing it everyday)!  I couldn’t be happier with that decision- I don’t think it’s a bad omen.  I thought if he gave me a ring that I thought was ugly, then THAT would be a bad omen that we weren’t right together.

Post # 11
6449 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lilycat:  Almost everyone I know has played some part in picking out their ring.

Do you have a picture of the one you picked out? 

Post # 13
1170 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2002

@Lilycat:  I can’t wait to see what made your heart sing!  I think pear shapes are beautiful and elegant.  🙂

Post # 14
60 posts
Worker bee

I found the diamond of my dreams.. and then told my FI and asked him if I could have it for my engagement ring.

So yeah, nothing wrong with choosing your own ring or choosing it together. My beautician did the same thing for her E-ring, chose it herself (and then her husband gave it to her).


It doesnt matter how you get there, as long as both of you are happy 🙂

Post # 15
1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

@Lilycat:  Now the suspense is killing me haha. If you get a pic to cooperate definitely load one!

Post # 16
6788 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

@Lilycat:  The only say FI had in my ring was he wanted white gold and a double halo. I did the rest of the work and had what I wanted custom designed. He never even asked how much it cost, just handed me his discover card…

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