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I'm not in the EXACT same position- and I haven't had my wedding yet- but I wanted to do a first look, and I know that my FI always wanted to see me coming down the aisle for the first time. He has agreed that he wants to be present during cocktail hour, and doesn't want to spend time between church and our reception venue taking pictures, so a first look may happen. He isn't as against it as he was, but if he pushes for no first look, I will oblige as I would never want to take something away from him that he dreamed about when he thought about his wedding :)
@future_schu: Aw cute! BF is completely against it. He goes "uh, well that's what you have two photographers for"!
So I'm hoping someone who has been married can answer/show me that it worked for them and they captured the moment.
I mean, I've been looking at all the photographers in my area and ALL of the couples have been doing first looks! Argh! :P
I'm doing a first look as well,FI is very reserved and I know if its just me and him he will truley show his emotions in our first look:) he said the first look offers more pictures and intimacy so that's why I'm doing it:)
We had two photographers and it didn't seem to be a problem. I try not to post too many face pictures here but I can pm you a link to my pics slideshow if you like?
@SapphireSun: Only if you're alright with that! I'm perfectly okay if you want to keep your privacy. If you're okay with it then I'd love to see them!
I completely understand your dilemma! I didn't really want a first look, but I was open to discussion. DH was STAUNCHLY against a first look and was really adamant that we wait to see each other for the first time as I walked down the aisle. I'll include some pics here to illustrate, but I should mention that my venue had a very long path down a hill toward the ceremony, and I chose to walk that by myself. As I neared the aisle, I met my parents and they walked me the rest of the way. DH isn't a very emotional person, but hopefully you can see the emotion on his face in these shots. :) We had two photographers, and I was extremely pleased with their coverage of the entire day. I would definitely recommend that everyone try to get a photo package that includes two photographers! Here are some shots from my walk down the path and aisle (sorry if I post too many- just trying to give you a good idea of how it worked out with two photographer and no first look):
@SuperBarry11: He looks so happy! And you look stunning!! Thank you for sharing your picture and story it really helped a lot!
I'm definitely trying to find a 2 photographer package
I haven't had a wedding yet BUT i do not want a first look. I think you can capture the emotion without it...I will be having two photographers so hopefully theyll be snapping away on both of us at the right moment :) I think you can definitely capture the emotion you want if you BF is completely against the first look.
Me!!
I wanted a first look and DH said no way. So, we didn't have one. I did have two photographers, but we didn't plan it that way. The company we went with had a photographer who didn't have a wedding to shoot, so she did mine as the second photog for SUPER cheap. But, I am pretty confident that one photographer can get the shots.
This is my guy. This is his sincerely happy face, and I love this picture. This was when he first saw me walking down the aisle.
We did pics during the cocktail hour and then some during the reception (we wanted a lot and had a venue with a ton of awesome backgrounds) to get more of just the two of us. But... looking at this picture brings happy tears to my eyes. I'm glad we saved that moment for the ceremony.
I specifically asked my photographer about this because neither of us want a first look. She said she usually stands near the groom and flips back and forth photographing each of us. She said she's never had a problem capturing both :-)
I was set against a first look, and DH didn't want one. I wanted to see all that emotion on my walk to becoming his wife. As reserved as he is, he cried, and it was totally worth it. My photog (only one) sat in the middle of the aisle and switched back and forth between the two of us.
@kayberry: If it's important to your fiance, I would not do the first look, but I don't like them in general anyway. I've been married before, and we didn't do one, and I enjoyed that first moment when we saw each other so much. I know this time around, it will be even better. I would never do a first look.
We didn't do a first look, and we have pictures of both of our faces that capture our emotions as I walked down the aisle. We only had one photographer, so it can be done. I think the photograper was up at the front to get DH's face from a closer distance, and then got my face as my dad and I approached the front.
I don't want one either, and we will be having two photographers. Our photographers are a married couple and one of the first things they said was how it's awesome because tehy are able to capture both of our emotions as I'm walking down the aisle :) I'm not worried about it at all!
(Also, one reason I finally decided against a first look was because while you DO get more pictures, I personally don't LIKE the first look pictures. There's a weird vibe to them, and I swear I can tell that they aren't married lol. Also, friends who haven't done a first look always got great couple shots after the wedding, doesn't seem to really be a problem!)
@kerri13: I totally agree!
We waited to see each other at the church, and I'm sooooo glad we did. We had 2 photographers, and they gave us plenty of pictures of both of us, starting before I even walked into the church. So I got to see the progression of emotions on my husband's face, and on my own, and it made me tear to look at the pictures and relive those moments. Definitely worth the wait :)
We met with our photog tonight and booked her. We had talked about having a first look because we are having an evening ceremony, but in my heart I wasn't comfortable with it.
We decided tonight against it, and will have only 1 photog. I am confident and comfortable with this and believe she will capture the important moment. She actually preferred no first look as she thinks the aisle sighting is a magical moment - hearing her say that reassures me that she will make it great.
FI is a bit nervous, he's afraid he might be emotional and kind of thought he'd get away with that more with a first look, but he's also fine without one. I want pics of him crying damnit!! lol
@kayberry: first looks aren't that popular here and we considered it but went traditional in the end and first saw each other walking down the aisle. I love the photos of my DH as he is watching me walk down and you can definitely capture the emotion! We had two photographers although I thought we were only having one, maybe some have an assistant?
Thank you all for your advice and stories! It really helps :)
For now I'd really like to find 2 photographers but of we can't it helps to know some of you ladies made it work with one!
my FI has firmly put his foot down on this one haha .. it's his one request to not do a first look, so we're honoring that. If he's up to it, you could always do one where you hold hands around a corner of a wall, but still can't see one another. I've seen some great shots of that on here [I tried searching, but now I can't find them lol] so you still could touch your FI and talk to him to help calm your nerves, but won't actually see one another, so you don't have to go rob a bridal store for a new dress ;-) haha. Also with the venue we're using, a first look would be out in the parking lot lol .. we're going off location to take bridal party pictures, and the first look would lose that "intimate feel" if we brought everyone with us .. and i'd hate to have to go out twice.
Good luck :)
hubby and i did not do a first look but we did get on opposite sides of the door to the grooms suite before the wedding and held hands. the photographer got some great pictures of that and it was really sweet and comforting to be around him before walking down the aisle. i highly recommend it. we were totally able to catch all of our emotion via walking down the aisle as well. it's such a special moment and all you focus on is your groom. it's magical.
we didnt have a first look because I really wanted him to see me for the first time in my dress and have the time to take it in as I walked down the aisle. Our photographer wasnt the greatest but he still got shots of both of our faces plus it was ll caught on tape by our awesom videographer.. Him seeing me for the first time as I walked down the aisle is by far one of the best moments of the entire day
I just wanted to add that we didn't do a first look either. I wanted the first time we saw each other to be at the church and so did DH. We only had one photographer and she was great. As long as they know what you want and you are comfortable with the fact that they will get it then it will be fine.
We had 2 photographers and have some beautiful shots of the emotion in DH's face...the second photographer apparently forgot her job and I don't have any good shots of me walking down the aisle. fail.
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So the last time BF and I talked about our future wedding I had decided that we WOULD do a first look (for the longest time I always wanted to skip it and see him for the first time when I was walking down the aisle to him) because I'd decided it was way better for picture opportunites and I was hoping to really capture our expressions, emotions and reactions with the first look.
Well BF is expressely against it. He said if I even tried to surprise him (which I would never) he'd make me return the dress and get a whole different outfit on that day. Which I'm not surprised he said that - he's like that for presents! One year his mom told him she got him a printer and he made her return it and get him something else because she told him what his gift was.
So he's big on surprises. Which is fine by me.
Anyways now, my question is: Bees who have NOT done a first look, were you able to capture the expression and emotion on BOTH of your faces as you walked down the aisle? Did you have 1 or 2 photographers?
BF suggested having 2 photographers specifically so we could get those pictures but I can't find any photographers who work in teams in my area (YET!)