- 3 years ago
So, my situation is kind of a funky one. I thank anyone who reads this in it’s entireity. I came here because I’ve been lurking for some time and the support seems so great, so here I go. I have been with my BF (29, I am 30) for a little over a year and a half now, met him at work, he’s a great, great guy. His best friend moved back in town about 5 months ago now and he (the friend) and his GF were staying with family and saved a bit, and then were looking to move out and get a place downtown. We all have pretty good jobs fortunately, so BF and I considered allowing them to move into the house he just purchased. We all have a great time hanging out, skiing together every weekend, going to bars, so we figured, our home has 4 bedrooms, is in their desired location, why not lessen our mortgage anad give it a try? So we asked and they accpeted, they have been living with us about 3 months now and are GREAT roommates, except I am almost 100% certain that my BF and his friend’s GF have something more than a frienship going on.
I say this mainly because I came home a lot earlier than expected one night from a dinner with work friends. They were both sitting on the couch (no big deal, it’s a big couch) but with the same blanket over the two of them. They were super awkward when I walked in, and my BF jumped up a little but definitelyyyy tried to hide it. He said “whats up babe?!” kind of obnoxiously and quickly got up to give me a kiss. That was the first instance, that I was going to bring up to my BF later on but never did, because I thought I was being insane, and I overthink A LOT of things. It’s a bad habit.
Okay, second instance. We don’t usually all sit down and cook dinner together, but when it does happen we try and make something fun. There were some things we needed for the meal we didn’t have, and BF’s friends GF (I’ll call her FGF) offered to go out and get the supplies. My BF immediately said he’d go with her and insisted she not pay for everything. I was kind of irriated and said he could give her some cash. He said he didn’t have cash on him and that he wanted some of his own things anyway, so off he went. Annoying, right? But still I tried to shrug it off.
Finally, and here is where I make myself seem psychotic, yesterday FGF and her BF were out, and my BF was in the shower. I couldn’t resist looking at his phone. It is something I have never done before and really did contemplate it for a while. I opened up the texts, and there is FGF’s name on top, the last message my BF sent to her was “I can’t wait”. He had deleted all messages prior, it was the only one in the conversation. That made the hairs on the back of my head stand straight up. When FGF and her BF returned, my BF and she went out for a bike ride (they are both avid cyclists) as they do once or twice a week. I debated hopping in my car and following them.
Am I crazy??? I want to believe I’m just seeing good friends as roommates, but as soon as I saw he had deleted all her texts I panicked and though of every situation I could remember where it seemed my BF could be attracted to her. It’s not just these times, he is always staring at her, always smiley to her. I can’t tell if I’m imagining this or not. Advice, anything PLEASE. I’m so stressed and unbelievably sick to my stomach at the thought.
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