BF is attracted to our roommate. I think. Please. Help.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

KatGrace130:  NOT OKAY. I mean, really? You need to talk to him, his friend, and that chick.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

You are probably building a mountain out of a molehill with this one, but I would talk to your BF about it and see what he says. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

KatGrace130:  I can’t wait may have been about the bike ride and yes he may have been stupid to delete text messages. I would not be comfortable with the situation as is but I think you should chat to him about all of this, it may be that it is all innocent

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I could write off everything until what you wrote about the deleted texts.

I strongly believe that you have to listen to your intuition.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

KatGrace130:  I’ve deleted texts by accident before. stupidly hit delete all, not my brighest moment. I would just casually bring up their relationship… Good luck, hope it’s all a misunderstanding

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

KatGrace130:  I really don’t think you’re overreacting. Even with close friends, if a guy has a serious girlfriend he shouldn’t be under a blanket with some other chick, or treating her like he would otherwise treat you. That text thing seems wonky too. It’s not silly to be upset about something like that. What’s the friend doing throughout all of this? Have you guys talked about what the boundaries are in your relationship, such as interactions with opposite sex and what cheating would entail? If you guys are serious about each other and are even living together you should be able to talk. Speak up, because you’ll never know what’s truly going on until you do. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Tbh I’d be watching like a hawk to make sure I’m not imagining anything.  Under a blanket together? Wth ? Deleting texts? Very suspicious though there’s no proof, & just in case it’s completely harmless I’d just keep an eye out… 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

All kinds of red flags going up here. Maybe not cheating per se, but definitely inappropriate behavior. Sorry to say but its time you two had a big talk. Good luck! Xx

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I strongly believe in a woman’s intuition. I think you should listen to yours.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I say trust your gut feeling – it definitely sounds like there’s some attraction there even if it hasn’t been acted on yet. Try and bring it up with you boyfriend but be prepared he may shoot it down and make you feel silly if something really is going on

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

How would you feel if the tables were turned? If you bf posted on the internet with conspiracy theories? Accusing you of things that you didn’t do especially when you have only done things that friends do. Seriously the women on this site never cease to amaze me. Everything you have written is easily explained and should not be causing red flags. Whatever happened to trust in relationships?

I don’t think this guy is the right one for you simply because you can’t seem to trust him. Maybe it has to do with your past relationships. Or maybe you have a problem with males having females friends.

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