bf moms, how do you feed in public?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What worked for me was an Udder Cover: http://www.uddercovers.com/

I loved mine, and it was very handy (until DD was old enough to hate it and move it out of the way…different babies will tolerate different things!) It was nice that the neck is rigid, so you can look at baby. I found it too hard to fiddle with blankets.

There were a few times that I just flipped my shirt down and fed her without a cover, but because she liked to latch and unlatch a lot, I was just more comfortable with a cover.

A lot of people find nursing with a sling really easy and convenient– my daughter hated the sling, so that didn’t work for us, but it may be a good option for you!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Mrslovebug:  I used a Boppy Nursing Cover and I nursed EVERYWHERE, mall, infront of family, work function…etc and never felt uncomfortable. But to be 100% honest, it probably drew more attention to what I was doing than if I didn’t use a cover a all. Most people are so self-absorbed and if you find a quiet corner, it usually just looks liek you’re holding a sleeping baby.

I always wore a cami under my shirt, so I would just unhook my bra, pull my shirt up, slip my cami down so that literally only my nip was exposed, and DS would go to town. I used the cover just so I didn’t feel like I alwyas had to have him positioned perfectly, but if I would have continued nursing (I stopped when he was 5 months) and he started getting figity with the cover, I probably would have gone without.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Mrslovebug:  My son was so fussy, and breatfeeding was so difficult for us. I used a cover…kind of looks like an apron. I also use a blanket. I mostly breastfeed in the backseat of my car or if I’m in the mall or store, I go into the dressing room becuase there I don’t have to cover up, which is MUCH more comofy for both DS and I. He runs really, really hot, so a cover sometimes makes him fuss because he’s too warm.

I’m modest as well, but honestly it came down to doing what was most comfortable. Even with him latching and unlatching, I was comfortable enough to not wear a cover in my car because you still couldn’t see anything with my shirt over him.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When dd was younger I used a hooter hider, but I hated it. Once her head control got better, I sometimes use a blanket just to cover my chest, but not dd. I just kind of drape it over my shoulder and uncover dd. What works best though is always wearing a nursing tank under every shirt. I can lift the top shirt, unclip the tank and nothing shows. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a nursing cover and use it if I’m sitting somewhere and need to feed. I’ve also discovered I can feed in both my carriers and no one has any clue. I have a Tula, it’s awesome. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I often use one of LO’s swaddle blankets because they are lightweight but not sheer, we always have them handy, and they are a lot less conspicuous than a nursing cover. During the winter, I often used my shawl, scarf or pashmina wrap that I was already wearing anyway.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Mine just ate under a blanket.  Also, if you are at the mall, the ladies rooms in departments stores often have a lounge that is ways from the bathroom part, that has a couch and comfy chairs.  I often fed there.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Good for you for bfing without irl role models!

When my baby was very small I used a cover – either the apron type ones or the scarf type ones. Once I got. More comfortable and my baby got less okay with being covered, I just fed her in public. I always wore nursing tanks and then just unsnapped one side and fed her with my shirt piled on her face. It’s still really discrete even without a cover. The other thing I do when we’re walking around is feed her in the Ergo carrier. It took awhile to figure out how to position her in there, but eventually we got the hang of it and now it’s literally impossible to tell I am feeding her in it. 

When she was really new, I used to practice my public feeding in front of a mirror so that I could figure out what I was doing and what it looked like and if anyone could see my boobs so that I was comfortable with all the steps before I tried it in real life! 

 

 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve never used a cover but could usually find a parents’ room or a quiet corner to sit in and now that my girl is older I tend to nurse in the car (she’s very distractible!).

You could practice nursing in front of a mirror, you’ll probably be surprised with how little skin you show! Personally, I do the shirt up, cami down style of nursing and have occasionally worn a waterfall cardigan for a bit of extra coverage. You could also head along to a La Leche meeting of bf’ing support group so you can practice in a friendly and supportive environment 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

Mrslovebug:  My recollection is that you count pees and poops and monitor weight gain…My youngest is 6, so I can’t remember how many wet diapers she was supposed to have but it seems like maybe 1 every few hours? 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mrslovebug:  I think it’s at 6-8 wet or dirty diapers per day, or more and she’s getting enough food. they also tend to cry hysterically if they are hungry, so there’s a good chance you’ll know! I never woke up baby to feed, but she was always gaining and producing lots of wet and dirty diapers, so I don’t know if that’s the right advice for everyone! But if they go to sleep eating, I would trust that it’s enough food. If you have the time and ability, having a nursing party with the baby where you do a lot of lying around skin-to-skin and feeding on demand -it’s a great way to boost and test supply. As far as discontinuing the formula goes, you can always feed on demand for awhile and see if she producing enough wet and dirty diapers and if she seems full! A really really great resource for every nursing question is kellymom.com!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Mrslovebug:  In terms of maintaining your supply, you probably want to ensure that you are feeding a minimum of eight times a day which would roughly be every 2-3 hours during the day and maybe every 4-5 hours during the night. If your LO was only taking a small amount of formula during the day, then it would probably be ok for you to just bf providing you keep an eye on her outputs.

At such a young age I would be popping a boob in your LO’s mouth at every opportunity possible and comfort nursing will do wonders for your supply too!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

My pediatrician said not to nurse more than 20 minutes… Ever. I had been nursing for 40 minutes or so, and he said that prolonged nursing can actually cause weight loss due to the calorie burn from nursung. That said, some babies are effiecient sleep nursers. Your baby will likely say when she’s hungry. Mine didn’t, though. She had gaining issues for the first month, but I kept ebf, and she’s a chunkin muffin at 6 months. 

For public nursing, I hate the covers, she also pulls off blankets. It took me time, but now I’m more comfy with public nursing. I use my Ergo carrier with the hood up for privacy. if you stare at us from the side, you’ll probably get a show…. I don’t care, though. My girl’s gotta eat!

eta…. Also, you can always nurse in fitting rooms for public privacy, and you can look for the family restrooms that may have nursing rooms.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Mrs. Gremmlin.
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