Ya I don’t get the whole “surprise” thing…
Too much Hollywood IMO
I get it in regards to perhaps the timing of the actual words being spoken… or a ring being flashed…
BUT in reality, in this day and age, couples talk marriage long before they talk about the actual proposal.
Particularly so if people are doing things like having sex, living together, buying houses, having babies etc…
If you’ve exchanged LIFE PLANS then you KNOW you two are on track for Engagement… and so a Proposal that truly only is “Will You Marry Me” can come at any time that matches up with your timeline / LIFE PLAN
A Proposal can take place with or without a ring. A Proposal is merely the act of asking… (whatever format that may take… cause it isn’t always the aforementioned 4 words)
My own happened without those 4 specific words (basically on vacation… and the idea “We should look into marrying on this beach the next time we are here” is what he presented) … and without a ring… then we went ring shopping together… and announced things “officially” to the rest of the world after the ring was on my finger
But there are plenty of Bees here on WBee who come up with other solutions so as to plan together / shop together (agree on a ring) prior to either the words being spoken, or the ring being given
And still the actual event… the Proposal is still a HUGE event for them (surprise or not)
Lol, many a guy having been able to hide the purchase of the actual ring from his GF, or having it and taking his own sweet time to set the stage to pop the Question.
And it seems to me that ALL those Bees were quite happy with however things turned out.
They still were surprised when the Question was asked, or the ring was presented to them.
I don’t for a second regret how my proposal came about… his asking… even in his own way was thrilling. So Him. And now it is sooo us, and part of OUR LOVE STORY. I didn’t miss not his having a ring in hand at the time… cause it gave us something more to enjoy together in our relationship looking for it. And the moment he slipped it on my finger, was still swoonworthy… a truly incredible AWESOME Moment.
Hope this helps,