BF says he says I'm most attractive WITHOUT makeup and in workout clothes

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
4015 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ln4444:  I think you should dress how you feel like dressing. Simple as that. My husband does make the occasional compliment when I have no makeup on he thinks I’m pretty BUT he thinks I’m beautiful whether I’m dressed to the nines or in my workout clothes with no makeup and hair in a knot 🙂

Is he saying it as in he doesnt want you to wear nice things ever?

Post # 4
6953 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@ln4444: This is a fairly common thing for guys to say. I think it stems from liking what we look like after spending the night with them. Being dressed comfortably and without makeup is what I look like when we’re hanging out at home, cuddling and cooking together. It’s the most intimate we are (out of bed), so it makes absolute sense that he would associate that look with happy feelings. 

Don’t read too much into it. Wear whatever you want. If that means dressing up and wearing makeup that’s great… he’ll just appreciate it more when you do dress down.

Post # 5
3097 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Wow, I’d feel frustrated if I spent time tryin to look nice only for dh to tell me that! Though I guess at the same time I’dbe happy that I wouldn’t have to try 😛 sounds like a lot of make up (bronzee+ foundation + powder ) though it depends on how you wear it and pull it off. Have you just used eyeliner + mascara ? You know, something more subtle? Or maybe you’re just a natural beauty who looks weird with make up? I had a friend like that- very gorgeous without make up but make up looked out of place on her. As for clothing , I think a lot of guys would say their wife/ SO looks good in yoga pants lol. Maybe try leggings under a cute sweater dress … Assuming its cold! If its hot a sun.dress? Or maybe a blouse with jeans and some simple flats? I’m just throwing out ideas since I don’t know how you dress.

Post # 6
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My husband says he likes me best when I wear no make-up. But, I think I look better with make-up on so I wear it 90% of the time. I typically don’t wear anything on the weekends because I’m lazy. It’s nice to know that when I think I look like crap, my husband thinks I’m beautiful

Post # 7
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you’re reading too much into this.

He isn’t saying you look like Shrek when you’re all done up. He’s just saying he likes you best when you have no makeup.

Post # 8
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think guys notice as much as we “hope” they do!  LOL.  Our guys think we look great all the time because our personalities define our beauty to them.  It’s a good thing-embrace the pure love and relax about the make-up!



Post # 11
6685 posts
Bee Keeper

Are you sure it’s not frustration with how long it takes to get ready to go out? Or that he’s afraid you’ll prove to be too “high maintenance” for him?  Of course, it could just be that he associates the women he loves with a more earthy vibe. 

Another  possibility is he’s afraid you’ll eventually start making demands on him to “clean up his act.”   He might have dated someone like that once or just be nervous you’ll try to change him. 

Post # 12
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@ln4444:  I wouldn’t normally ask this, but could you maybe post some comparison pics?

blurred out eyes or whatever, maybe…

I’m just wondering, since he actually actively dislikes you with makeup in comparison to no makeup, if you are applying it weird?  I mean, I don’t THINK you are applying it weird LOL, but it’s worth checking… right? idk. lol

Post # 14
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

After 7 years I learned to just dress up for myself (and do almost always when going out) 


I get the same comments from my fiance “you don’t need to wear makeup” 


I stopped wearing heavy makeup (like doing nice smokey eyes..etc) for about 5 years because he told me “you wear too much makeup” then out of the blue the other day I did a smokey eye and he complimented me and said “I like how you did your eyes”    I just smiled and thanked him but I really wanted to punch him lol.  


Everyone on my instagram complimented me for my look and I often get comments from relatives as to why I never do any eye makeup and look so “natural”.  It really is because my fiance’s comments many years ago that I gave up wasting my time.


Men can’t make up their minds!!!


Right now I’m planning my elopement wedding and it’s a similar situation with my hairstyle, I always wear a messy bun and fiance always said “you look so good with your hair like that” and so you’d think I would do a nice bridal up do but nope, fiance said “you look better with your hair down” when I asked his opinion on hair.


Sheesh!  It might actually be easier for us to just all live in sweat pants and no makeup 🙂 

I plan to look as natural as possible on the big day, which is why I’m doing my own hair and makeup.

We have strange stories in the family about makeup, my grandfather used to throw my grandma’s makeup out the window and my aunt’s husband just FREAKS out if my aunt wears any makeup at all. I always found those stories very odd but thank God my fiance is really just a nice easy going guy. 


Post # 16
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ln4444:  I believe you! I use only mineral makeup and hardly own any eye liner (I just use the powder mineral stuff as eye liner so it’s very light, and never black only a nice java brown)  

Don’t worry about what your bf says, I’m sure you look great, just keep doing what you love and you’ll be spending a lot of time indoors with him without makeup so everyone should be happy about that arrangement.  

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