- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
It my boyfriends sisters wedding on Friday, I am a bridesmaid and am super excited to attend the wedding and feel very special that his sister has included me in her bridal party. I was also really excited as my boyfriend has been away with Royal Navy training for 3 weeks and he had been granted 3 days of leave to attend the wedding. As his ship is going to remain at sea while he’s gone he had made arrangements with his captain that the ships helicopter would fly him ashore and he could get a train down to the town where the wedding is. However he has just emailed to say that the helicopter has broken down and is not expected to be fixed in time.
I was really looking forward to seeing him because the last 3 weeks included him missing my birthday when he has since told me he was planning to propose. I’ve only spoken to him on the phone 3 times since he went as they don’t have signal where they are and the onboard satelite phones are not enabled as its not a proper (ie away for several months) deployment. We do have email so I suppose I really should be greatful for small mercies but he’s been working so hard and ridiculously long hours that the emails I receive are only a few lines long.
I am so upset that he’s not going to make it and I’m also really upset for him and his sister as they are very close and will both be gutted that he can’t attend, he and his parents have decided not to tell her until they know for certain he won’t make it. Of course there is a tiny chance they might find another way to get him off the ship and to the wedding, but its pretty unlikely. Clearly I’m not going to go behind their backs and tell her myself but I’m the kind of person that just prefers to know potentially dissapointing news like that sooner rather than later. Partly because it gives me more of a chance to deal with the information and come to terms with it. Do you think I should try to encourage my Boyfriend or Best Friend and his parents to tell the bride now? Would you prefer to know if you were the bride in this situation?