BFF just hit by a car! What can I do to help?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Kwhoa:  she might have disability insurance.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s probably best to ask her what she would like for you to do. Glad she wasn’t too hurt!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Dont raise money.. She is ok! If she didnt break any bones she likely wont miss much more than a week or so of work/school…. 

 

offering to pick up some groceries for her would be nice… or even making some freezer meals such as casseroles and soups… I am sure she would maybe even just like some company… bring over a get better soon package filled with movies, maybe some cozy pjs or slippers, chocolate, bottle of wine.. icecream.. whatever really! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Makemeamrs:  +1

make her dinner for a few nights.  don’t make a “fundraiser” page for her.  she isn’t dying.  i find those pages to be obnoxious and rude IMO. 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh my that’s horrible! I’m glad to hear it’s not as bad as it could have been. If the car that hit her was properly insured they should pay for her down time. It could be a while before she gets that money. If you want to send money, Google wallet can do it with just an email address. I would think food and small comforts would be the most immediate things but I would talk to her first as eating may be a restricted food concern right now.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Kwhoa:  right, you’re a good friend, do what you can but don’t go crazy 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Kwhoa:  depending on the insurance laws in your state, the other driver may be liable for her being out of work. If she is hurting and too uncomfortable to move around, food that is already prepared so she can just heat it up and throw away the containers woukd be super helpful and easier for her. Offer to go to doctor’s appointments with her or to help with cleaning and laundry. Those are things that may be difficult for germ I know she is “ok” but those muscle pains from being hit may not start for another day or two. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

go & spend time with her – ask her what she needs – & maybe take some dinner

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Kwhoa:  depends if she is on any pain killers or not… if she isnt and her dr said it is ok… im sure a glass of wine wont hurt her! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@Kwhoa:  My guess is maybe some company and preparing some meals so she has something to eat? It will take you maybe another few days to realize the seriousness of the injuries and if she has any limitations that will last more than a few days and will keep her from working for more than a week.  

Contrary to others, i will tell you that the fact that there are no broken bones does not mean that her injuries are that minor and won’t keep her from resuming normal life asap. 

I’ve had two pretty nasty accidents, one car and one that I crashed from my bike at a race and in both cases I got pretty messed up.  Just to give you an idea, in the first accident, a truck hit my car and the whiplash was so bad that 7 years later and numerous rounds of therapies later, I still have trouble. The only thing that helps is training throughout the year, because while painful at the beginning, it makes my back stronger and keeps the muscles in a better shape, therefore keeping pain at bay. In this occasion pain was so bad I could not work for a month. And had to be on a mix of drugs that kept me from driving and functioning normally. 

The second time, the bike crash, I broke my shoulder and a tendon. That alone was no biggie and although it hurt I could have gone to work in about two days. However, I had a pretty nasty trauma in the hip although “nothing broke”. Turns out that is what kept me from working for almost three weeks because I could simply not put any weight at all on that leg.And since my shoulder was broken, I could not assis myself with one of those things you use to keep weight from your leg (sorry English not my first language) That hurt SOOO much more than the broken shoulder and tendon and my hip was not broken. Soft tissue injuries can be a B*t.. to treat and can be very painful and at times limiting. So please do not assume that because “nothing is broken”, nothing really happened and she doesn’t need you. You are a very nice friend by thinking ahead in case she needs you and in case she is unable to work. Seems like she has a nice group of friends. If things get tough, I’m sure you guys will figure out a way to help her.

Also, if the car hit her and it wasn’t a hit and run, have her go after the insurance company of the car. Hopefully they’ll pay for her treatment and therapies? If indeed the car was insured, and she loses her income, she can get a lawyer to get the insurance company pay for the loss in her income that resulted from the accident. This assuming the car is the one in the wrong. Good luck!

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