Post # 1
So I am unbelievably excited, and I have no one to tell since my Husband and I agreed to keep it to ourselves till after the first trimester.
So my concern is we are so scared!!! I am a hypocondrica and I’m nervous about chemcial pregancies and miscarriages…. So scared…. How does you handle all the what ifs? Especially if you are a worry wart?
Post # 3
I replace unhappy thoughts with happy excited thoughts.
If I start thinking about all the bad things that could happen, I make the conscious decision to go for a walk or focus on something I’m excited about, like googling pictures of a nursery, looking at a baby name book, or browsing Etsy for cute diaper bags. If you make the effort to be happy, eventually the happy will replace the stress.
Yes of course you have to be realistic that something could go wrong, but no amount of worrying will prevent it anyway, so you might as well allow yourself to be happy and excited. Also talking to my doctors and midwives really reassured me that I am healthy and that made me feel much more in control.
Post # 4
@KatyElle: Thanks! We just witnessed a dear friend go through a miscarriage so I think my husband is so scared of getting excited, he thinks it will hurt less if something goes wrong. So we are walking that thin line of being excited and scared to talk about it!!! I think in a few days/weeks it will feel more real.
Thank you again, I’m certainly going to try and replace the stress!!
Post # 5
I’m not pregnant yet, but I’ve had three good friends go through miscarriages in the last 6 months. Its a constant worry on my mind, and maybe the reason why I wait so long to test (don’t want to catch an early pregnancy, and then have it be a chemical).
But, I agree with KatyElle. Replace those negative thoughts with positive thoughts, and dream about everything that could go RIGHT with your baby. I think if you worry all the time, you’ll rob yourself of the joy that comes with pregnancy.