Post # 1
So I POAS this morning because I’m 15 DPO with no signs of AF coming and I haven’t had my usual pre-AF spotting. This is what I get:
I have no other symptoms and I don’t “feel” pregnant at all. This doesn’t feel real. I mean, we only BD’d once on the night I supposedly ovulated – I figured it was too late and I was out for this month.
I know this makes me a terrible person, but I’m actually kind of disappointed because I really wanted to have a few beers at a festival I’m going to next month! And I’m due right around my own birthday, which I’m kind of meh about.
Anyway, I plan on telling Darling Husband when he gets home from work tonight. I’m hoping his excitement will get me excited but right now all I can think of is that this is not ideal timing.
Ladies: anyone TTC but disappointed with the timing of your BFP? Any other sage advice?? Help me get pumped about this baby!
Post # 3
@iheartnerds: Lady, you should be pumped!! And please don’t take this the wrong way, but there are many many of us who have been TTC for quite some time now, who would absolutley give their left leg to be in your position right now. Take some breathers and realize your going to be a mommy! I think once it finally kicks in, you will be excited. Have fun telling hubby.
Post # 4
First off, Congratulations!! I admit I didn’t feel excited the day I got my BFP. It was strange and didn’t really feel real.
I am not disappointed that I am missing out on drinking because we’d tried for several months with no luck. I was delighted that it finally worked but it still felt really weird looking at that second line that I’d been praying for.
Give it a little time and I’m sure you’ll come around. Today try to think of a fun way to share the news with your Darling Husband.
Post # 6
Don’t worry about the little details (beers, birthday, etc), focus on the magnitude of awesome of creating a child with your husband!
Post # 7
You will be excited. My first thought when I got my BFP was “Oh my GOD- what have we DONE?!?!?” then I was excited, then nervous, then scared to death, then excited again… it was a cycle that continued for a day or so!
It sank in a little when I told MrDane- he was over the moon! We told my parents who were also completely overjoyed. It really did help my confidence in that they were happy for us, not terrified that we would be in charge of another human life.
Oh, and I didn’t have any symptoms either. I was super tired between 4 and 5 weeks, had some queasiness/nausea from about 6/7 weeks until recently (I’m 9 weeks) but I still need a nap sometimes and if I get too hungry I get an upset stomach. Some people have sypmtoms the whole time, others are lucky!
As for our timing, well we had planned to start TTC in August (the month we married) but since it never works the first time, we had a “practice” month in July… well we see how that went 🙂 I was almost 8 weeks pregnant at my wedding, so I didn’t drink at my bridal shower, bach party, or the wedding. Sure, we could have waited a month, but we didn’t know it would happen for us so quickly. We are so incredibly lucky that we have been blessed with this gift so soon, it kind of overshadows the fact that I didn’t have a glass of wine at my wedding.
Post # 8
@iheartnerds: Well, congrats! Not sure what to say about being disappointed, you’re gonna be a mom! It’ll set in sometime soon and you’ll be happy.
Post # 9
There is no such thing as what you SHOULD feel. Just be OK with what you DO feel. Everyone reacts differently to emotionally huge events. Clearly you want a child, since you were TTC. You’ll be excited when you are ready to be. Don’t worry. There is no “normal”. 🙂 Best wishes for a happy and healthy 9 months!
Post # 10
@Yellow.Clover: You’re right. This was only our second month trying and I really thought it would take us longer. I know so many bees would love to be where I am right now and that I should be super grateful for this gift.
@peanuthead: I think I already know how I’m going to tell Darling Husband. When we started TTC, I secretly bought an adorable little cow infant hat because Darling Husband really likes cows, for whatever reason. I wrapped the hat and the positive test in tissue and tucked it into a fun gift bag that I’ll give him after dinner tonight.
To the others: thanks for the congrats! 🙂
Post # 11
Feelings are just feelings. They aren’t always rational. I got horrible news once and burst out laughing because I was shocked. Shelve the beer and birthday issue and think “I have been given an amazing gift.” Remind yourself until it becomes real. Congrats!
Post # 12
@iheartnerds: Your feelings don’t make you a horrible person, dude. All feelings are fair- it’s what you do that matters.
First of all, I’d say you feel this way because this isn’t real yet. It’s not real for a lot of people. DH and I had been trying for 6 months when I got my BFP and I just stared at the stick…and screamed when I found out. I was excited but I was also shocked. I tested the next day…and the next because I just couldn’t believe it. Full disclosure: I tested after a night out at the bar. My period wasn’t late and I was having pre-period symptoms…and I was pretty bummed. On the way home, things just didn’t feel right and I just decided to test on a whim. I’m now 33 weeks (as of Friday).
Shit didn’t get real for me all at once. It’s happened over time. First ultrasound, first feeling of movment, the starting of pre natal classes, buying stuff the nursery…all add to the realness. Still, from what I hear, it can take until you go into labour or even when you bring the baby home for this to sink in. It’s HUGE. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling whatever you feel. The mother-guilt starts early and it’s going to get more intense. For example, I have horrible guilt right now that my pregnancy hasn’t been that fun. I don’t feel great pretty much all of the time, the first 4 months were MISERABLE, and I didn’t get that burst of engery you’re “supposed” to get in the 2nd trimester. I can’t sleep. I’m tired. I’m emotional. I feel gross. It makes me feel awful that I just want to meet this person and get to the Mom bits…I honestly don’t like being pregnant, but love my baby, you know? So, you just realised that life isn’t going to be the same…the changes start early. That’s big, scary stuff. Own that.
Now go out and find some fab way of telling your Darling Husband. It will hit you and it will be great. Congrats!
Post # 13
Thanks again, ladies. You really are awesome. I am excited about telling Darling Husband because I know he’s going to be so happy. I really really hope it rubs off on me. 🙂
I have an errand or two to run this afternoon, but besides that I’m home all day. I don’t know what I’m going to do with myself until Darling Husband gets home!
Post # 14
@iheartnerds: At 26 weeks, it still doesn’t feel real to me; but, you will love being pregnant when you get used to it. After I jumped up and down for a minute I ran up to tell my husband and he was like, “oh, okay.” He was so not excited until the first appointment when there was no denying the little baby growing in my tummy, the heartbeat was what sold him.
Plus, I bought the husband tickets to go parasailing and was little bummed when I realized that I would have to sit it out.
Post # 15
Congratulations!!!! I’d kill for a bfp so I’m mega excited for you!!!!
Post # 16
Congrats! I think it’s normal to feel meh at first. Honestly, I was so in shock, I don’t think I really felt…anything. I was zombified for a few days lol