Post # 1
Hi Bees! So…my Fiance and I are not overly religious, but my family is. I am going to have a few secular reading for myself and my Fiance, but I really feel I should include at least one verse for my family. Aside from the typical Corithians 13 selection…are there any other good verses out there?
Post # 3
We didn’t have any bible verses at our wedding, but we did include a couple of blessings.
Wedding Prayer, Robert Louis Stevenson
Lord, behold our family here assembled.
We thank you for this place in which we dwell,
for the love that unites us,
for the peace accorded us this day,
for the hope with which we expect the morrow,
for the health, the work, the food,
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;
for our friends in all parts of the earth. AMEN
Traditional Irish Blessing:
May the road rise to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of his hand.
May God be with you and bless you.
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune, rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness from this day forward.
May the road rise up to meet you, May the wind be always at your back.
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home.
And may the hand of a friend always be near.
May green be the grass you walk on.
May blue be the skies above you.
May pure be the joys that surround you.
May true be the hearts that love you.
Post # 4
We may use one just as a peace offering to all the offended relatives out there (atheist ceremony, GASP!) and we decided that we’d like one that is more poetic so that we’re not hearing something we don’t believe in/agree with. This is our choice:
Set me as a seal upon your heart,
as a seal upon your arm,
for love is strong as death,
jealousy is fierce as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
a raging flare.
Many waters cannot quench love,
neither can floods drown it.
If a man offered for love
all the wealth of his house,
he would be utterly despised.
(Song of Solomon 8:6-7)
Post # 5
@lilyfaith I’ve never heard that one before. It might work. I also really like the Irish Blessing…if only we were Irish…Damn my Scandanavian blood!
Post # 6
Yeah, I don’t love it, but honestly it’s a bit of a peace offering issue for us. You might just want to look through the poetic books (Psalms, Proverbs, Song of Solomon) and see if anything catches your eye.
Post # 7
I know this is an older post, but I am in the same situation. I was thinking of using Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, which talks about two being better than one. I really like lilyfaith’s choice, though!
Have you had discussions with your parents on how your children will be raised? Mine are concerned and I feel very uncomfortable discussing these differences with them. I want my kids to be aware of religion/God/faith decisions, but I really want it to be just that–an awareness–so that they can make their own decision and truly believe whatever it is they do. Anyway, that’s a tangent 🙂
Post # 8
The ceremony should reflect YOUR beliefs, not those of your family. They should respect you and that you don’t share the same ideology as they do. Otherwise, it does come across to those who know you best that you are pretending to be someone you’re not. If they cannot or will not accept you and your differences of belief, etc, then it’s really not your fault or your place to change them, nor should you change who you are for their benefit. If you want a Bible passage read, do it because you want to, not because your family expects it.
The 1 Corinthians verse is the only one that discusses love and is secular. The others are very religious and would be out of place in a secular ceremony.
Post # 9
We used two verses that tied into what the minister would be talking about anyways. For example when he is saying some opening words… “As ___ and ____ make their promises to each other today, we remember that God’s love is the foundation for our ability and willingness to love one another. As it says in 1 John 4: 7, 10, 12 “Dear friends let us love one another for love comes from God…” “This is love: not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son as atoning sacrifice for our sins.” “No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”
And the DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE he would say..” ___ and ___, by their promises before God and in the presence of this congregation, have bound themselves to one another as husband and wife. Those whom God has joined together let no one sever.” So i added on the end.. “Matthew 19: 4-6 says “Haven’t you read… that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
I thought this flowed better since we are not having any one come up to do a reading.Our minister told us to include two verses.. one from the gospel and one from either the old testament or the letters. Hope this helps!
Post # 10
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity
Post # 11
my favorite bible verse – which we are using – I do not believe has “overly religious tones” but is more about family:
And Ruth said, Entreat me not to leave thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.
Now, yes it says the word “God” but I don’t think it’s centered around that. It’s more about family and how – no matter what, no matter where – i am your family now.