Bickering with FI a lot lately…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  It happens.  Sadly.  As much as you love eachother the more time you spend together can cause you to fight over stupid things.  I feel like when you dont really have friends to talk about or other things to talk about you start getting bored and that can cause fights.  I know if DH and I only had eachother and not our friends we would probaby kill eachother!!!  Did yall just move in together? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

OP, FI and I have had periods of time where we bicker.  A lot…  We don’t really socialize a lot and it’s mostly just us hanging out with each other, but I think after those few periods of time where we wanted to wring each other’s necks, we have learned to just tell the other person we’re going to leave the room for a few minutes, cool down, etc.

I think it also helps to develop hobbies outside of each other.  I run, and he has his stuff that has nothing to do with me. 

This will pass – it blows, but I think it’s fairly normal.  It’s all about learning how to deal with it when it comes up. 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  Ok, yeah its probably just that you are both stressed and you are taking it out on eachother.  🙁 Sorry. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I hate to say it, but spend time in different parts of the house.  DH tends to stay downstairs, watching sports on the big TV and I’m upstairs in the living room or kitchen.  I guess we’re both very independent, but when we do come together and watch a movie or go out and run errands, it’s nice to spend time together.

I also try to think about what I’m about to nag him about and if it’s something I can do, I just do it.  Taking out the garbage, weeding, etc. aren’t that big of a deal or with fighting about.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

get a hobby you both like that you can do together and talk about together…. thats what helped us when we moved away from our family/friends…. we missed our friends less because we just became even better friends with each other. i know thats the opposite of what other people are saying… but you really need both.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yep! When DH and I first moved to Boston, we bickered CONSTANTLY for the first few months!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It sounds like situational stress is taking its toll on both of you. I definitely suggest some quality alone time doing something you find pleasurable. A book is good, but you may get even more mileage with some exercise to work out your frustrations and get a bit of that natural endorphin buzz. Just a thought.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@MichiganGirl24:  That could be a good place to meet new people, as an added bonus!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  Get out of the house and do something together. New town, right? This means heaps of new places to eat/walk/explore! Try a new sport together. Find a place and/or activity you both enjoy and make it yours.

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