Post # 1
It’s been a while since I’ve been on here and could use some help with something. Basically the short version of this story is that FI has had some major family drama on his side, as have I on my side (none of it having to do anything with our wedding or us) and we’ve decided to scrap the whole original wedding. We decided to make this as drama-free and the least stressful as possible.
We’re going to the DR and getting married on the beach with whomever can join us!I am really excited about my decision and even more so about doing this somewhere tropical!
Anyway – here is my question. If you do an OOT bag for those that join you at a destination wedding, do you still do a favor at dinner the night of the wedding? I have no problem doing this but just wasn’t sure what the ettiquette is here.
Post # 3
I don’t think that ettiquette dictates here. I think you can have both and it will be appreciated and you can have neither and lots of people won’t notice.
I did favors and no OOT bags. I had intended to do them but never got around to it.
Do whatever you have time for.
Post # 4
Over the summer I went to a wedding in Jamaica for friends of ours. They did the OOT bag and did a favor. I don’t think its NECESSARY, but if you can, its a nice gesture. They wanted to show how much they appreciated that their guests celebrated in this way with them. The favor was just a bottle of Jamaican rum with a nice thank you tag around it. And the OOT bag had nice stuff like luggage tags, a reading light for the plan, flip flops, magazines, candy, tylenol, and a couple other things I can’t remember. I thought it was cute.
Post # 5
I really think you can do whatever you want. if it’s a destination wedding, maybe put more effort into the OOT bags, and they’ll just be the favors.
Post # 6
How fun! I don’t think you need to do a favor too. Your wedding will be wonderful!
Post # 7
I agree, I think this is based on what you can afford. Also beware- some resorts won’t let you ship things to the resort!!!!! that would limit your favors!
If I were a guest, I’d appreciate a little welcome gesture- maybe some useful stuff like sunblock- or even something cute like a koozie! Then a small, easy favor at the reception would be nice- but obviously being in another country limits what you can do- so don’t stress! Just something nice to say you’re glad they’re there.
Post # 8
I’m not doing OOT bags or favors. Instead we are having a golf outing and wine tasting outing. So I’m doing bags for those two things. Golf bag will have some sunscreen, crackers, handi-wipes and golf tees. The wine bags will have a wine opener, cheese and crackers and chocolate. Not spending a lot on these items as some of them we got at the dollar store or found online for cheap cheap.
My friend did a tropical wedding and gave a beach bag with their date and monogram printed on the side. Inside were coozies and beach towels.
So my point is you can do whatever you want. And what goes with your wedding.