Post # 1
Any other brides who’s fathers have passed have random crying fits b/c it hits you yet again that your dad isn’t going to be there on your big day?
My father passed when I was 19 yrs old so it’s not like its something fresh, but man it still hurts so much when I think that he won’t be there to walk me down the aisle and he won’t be there laughing and dancing at the reception.
Today I heard a song that I KNOW he would have been grooving to at my reception and I went from smiling and car dancing to crying big, huge crocodile tears. 🙁
Post # 3
I haven’t lost a parent myself; however, my best friend recently lost her dad and just had a baby. It is hard when the people in your life that you love the most aren’t there for the biggest moments of your life.
Are you doing anything special to honor him? I saw a great pin on Pinterest of a girl who sewed a piece of her dad’s blue shirt on the outside of her dress. That way he will “have your back” all day long 🙂
I am sure your dad is very proud of you & the woman you have become.
Post # 4
@sn2bmrsmntgmry: I haven’t lost my dad but I lost my mom two years ago. I feel your pain. It catches me off guard all of the time. I’m sorry you’re struggling with it today =(
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss. :o( If I were you, I know I would be crying, too. I’ve been lucky to have my parents around, but my FI lost his mom to breast cancer just 2 years ago. Sometimes I just cry when I think about the way he must feel not to have her around. I’m also planning on making sure she is remembered at our wedding, with a table set up for her and my grandfather, that just passed in June of this year. I hate to think of anyone having to go through that hurt of losing a parent, and as cliche as I know it sounds, he will be there in spirit on your special day. He will be smiling down on you as you marry the love of your life. There’s nothing wrong with you crying, either..it takes a strong person to make it through the loss of a loved one, and those tears take strength. *big hugs* I’m sure this all sounds cheesy but I mean it from the heart.. as I have tried to comfort my FI with the loss of his mother, and I cry some days knowing that I never got to meet her. :'(
Post # 6
Ugh, my mom died in April. I can’t believe it’s already been four months. We weren’t very nice to one another a lot of the time and weren’t on really good terms when she died and I think that made it even harder. But it definitly catches me when I least expect it – especially when hearing a song or something other.
Post # 7
I lost my dad at 14 and the wedding and the days leading up to it were tough.
I really don’t have any words of advice, but random crying fits were absolutely ocurring. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Post # 8
I’m so sorry for all of your losses! I cried reading this thread 🙁
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for your loss. I think it’s natural for you to be thinking about this more during your wedding planner.. and if you believe in the spirit, know that he will be with you as you walk down that aisle. *hugs*
PS. I’m wondering if you used the phrase crococile tears by accident? Because it means fake tears, an insincere display of emotions. And it sounds like your tears are anything but!
Post # 10
Yes, what PP just said – not to nitpick over your obviously very sincere post, but “crocodile tears” means “fake tears, crying just for the sake of appearances”.
Post # 11
Crocodile tears is definitely not the right phrase for this…that means you’re not sincerely crying, which you are.
I’m sorry you’re feeling so sad. I’m sure your dad would be happy for you and proud of you!
Post # 12
@KCKnd2: @peachacid: Was it essential that we tell her a second and third time?
OP, I haven’t lost a parent and I can’t pretend to know how that feels. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this and having a hard day. I hope that you find a lot of joy on your wedding day even though someone important will be missing. Huge hugs to you!
Post # 13
Wow, I’ve been schooled on what crocodile tears mean…. I meant “big” tears… apparently I was mistaken by the saying
Post # 14
ps. clearly I did NOT mean “fake tears, for appearance”
Post # 15
I also lost my father at 19, and it has been so hard just planning my wedding. I think about the same things you do like walking down the aisle, etc. I think what is hardest for me is that my FI never got to meet him. I know how you are feeling. Hugs!
Post # 16
I cannot even imagine how that must feel. I tear up just trying to imagine what it would be like. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad will be with you at your wedding watching down and smiling though. Hugs for you. xo