Post # 1
Been a plus size girl my whole life, up and down but for the most part I was a consistent 18 and 6’1. I was never happy being there but I was “okay” with it. Then life happened and I was dealing with a lot of stressors and packed on more weight. I’ve got myself up a couple sizes and I feel gross.
I got engaged two years ago and we were to have our wedding last spring but had to postpone due to some medical problems w/our son. I think postponing it just gave me this get out of jail free card and allowed me to continue my bad eating habits. I knew my wedding was this spring but we were just so pre-occupied with other things (buying a house, etc..) and I put it off. Then the holidays and then it was holy crap I need to get planning. I just kept thinking I had time and before I knew it my shower was here. I saw pictures from my bridal shower and literally started crying. I was disgusted with how I looked!! I was sick to my stomach and couldn’t eat for a couple days. That picture should have been all the motivation I needed but before I knew it, I forgot about that picture and kept on going.
Here I am three weeks away and too damn late to do much about it and I’m just sick. I’m spending thousands on my photographer and I’m probably going to hate every picture I’m in. I am dreading walking down the aisle in front of co-workers and people that aren’t my closest friends and family.
At my first dress fitting I was mortified by the back fat and my arms so the seamstress offered to make me a bolero which I agreed to. I have yet to see it and am scared that I wont like it or that I’m just going to look like the fat girl that had to cover herself up. Aside from that it is my face that bothers me the most. I can cover up a lot of my fat in my dress, but the face there isn’t much I can do.
I’m so terrified that I will forever hate my wedding pictures. Someday I will get off my duff and get back to where I should be and I’m always going to look back and my pictures regretting that I didn’t do it before the wedding. UGGH!! It’s a vicious cycle..stress out, you eat. You see pics of yourself and it stresses you out and you eat! 🙂
A lady I work with told me to remember that not everybody else sees me the way I see me. I keep trying to remind myself of that yet it is ME that wants to love my wedding pictures!
Post # 3
I’m kind of in the same boat as you.
I was super in shape in high school, and once college and responsibilities came, I got a little soft. For years, I was able to maintain my weight within a 5 pound range. However, within the past few months life has been crazy, I have managed to put on about 15 pounds. I am so conscientous about how I look every day, especially my arms and my stomach.
I have 2 months until the wedding and need to start working out, because something is better than nothing. But I am frustrated because I didn’t start sooner and feel like I can’t make a difference..
Post # 4
The lady was right-you surely see yourself in a worse light than anyone else does!
Don’t crash diet-it will make you feel way worse. My suggestion, if you can, is to work out for the next few weeks. I know that I feel WAY better about myself even after like 3 days of working out, and that’s what really matters-how you FEEL about yourself.
Regardless, you will look beautiful on your wedding day. Everyone does! Everyone will have fantastic things to say about you, and you should take them to heart! Try not to be so hard on yourself, especially on your wedding day!
Post # 5
i feel like i could have written this myself (exceot my wedding dress is like a 32)… i started doing well and then last fall my mom was the victim of a homicide which just threw weight anything out the window. I can say I do love my dress though.. HATE my arms, love my dress lol…
Post # 6
@somerrae: I would do anything to have two months back so I say go for it because you CAN make a difference in two months. Don’t wait and be like me with three weeks left.
@mrs-evans YOU made me cry girl! THANK YOU and maybe you’re right, I should start doing something to make myself feel a little better AND it would help with stress too.
@cemetree First, We are date twins 🙂 Mine says May 19 but that was when it was supposed to be last year . I am so sorry to hear about your mom! That is awful and I’m sorry she will not be physically there at your wedding but I am certain she will still be with you. Be happy you love your dress. I bought mine two years ago and would change it if I could but no turning back now lol
Post # 7
@vicozzie: Can totally relate, was a competitive athlete in school. I tore almost everything up to my left knee in a few really bad injuries. I started working out in April last year to get back into shape,and then I got pregnant. I had bad morning sickness all the way through and was unable to workout. Now im stressed about my size, didn’t help that my mil( trying to be helpful) said, ” It’s ok you just had a baby, no one expects you to look perfect.”
Just remember your Fiance thinks you are beautiful
Post # 8
do you have a shaper like spanx or something? I bought the spanx high waisted shorts from torrid in natural so that my legs do not rub together too bad and have a semi-longline bra. the spanx are a bit of a pain to get on the first time, but they definitely help smooth my bumps out a bit.
Post # 9
@vicozzie: I was where you are now a few years ago right before my wedding. I had lost some weight and then gained it back right before the wedding 🙁 but, a month before I decided I wanted to FEEL better on my big day. I lost about 5lbs and then the week before another 5 just dropped off! I was a size 16W when I got married, and weighed like 220. cleaning up my diet and exercising helped me feel better about myself!!! you can make a difference in 3 weeks! You can loose a few lbs and feel better about yourself. Clean up your diet and hit the gym 😀 It will help with stress.
Post # 10
I would say to try and really clean up your diet and exercise before the wedding because in 3 weeks you could lose 5-10 pounds and that would probably show in your face. But the main thing is I see you say multiple times that your stress causes you to gain weight (common!). You need to find a more constructive outlet for your stress than eating. Do you like any exercise or activity that could take that place? You will be a beautiful bride, so just focus on making some lifestyle changes that are permanent, and starting now might give you an extra boost for your wedding.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - old cheese factory
have you watched the dove real beauty sketches on youtube? if not you need to watch it. its a real eye opener about how we see ourselves compaired to how others see us. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=litXW91UauE
you should watch it.
Post # 12
@vicozzie: Have you heard of highlighting and contouring you make-up?? You can make your face look more defined and chiseled!! It’s awesome!! It really is the difference between us and the celebrities 🙂
(look how much SMALLER her nose looks in the second picture!! ^^^)
There is an awesome tutorial HERE
Post # 13
@Quinlan: wow this is crazy!!!
Post # 14
Aww honey I could have written this myself!
My bridal shower pictures make me look like a stuffed sausage. I feel huge in this big white dress. Pictures of me just make me want to eat away my feelings.
I’m 2 months out. I get motivated pinning exercises on Pinterest and such… and then never follow through!
Post # 15
@vicozzie: same boat, im 5’11 and 175 my wedding day is June 1st. Im most worried about my arms. I just started doing arm weights, but its too late now. You just gotta know you will look different all done up and make the best of it 🙂 rock your dress!!
Post # 16
@somerrae: I feel EXACTLY EXACTLY EXACTLY the same way..except I’m 4’11 and have managed to gain 15 pounds in a year..so it’s REALLY REALLY REALLY noticeable! ((sigh)) I am so disheartened by it but I’m going to behave myself for the next 3 weeks and 5 days and hope for the best!
Yoga, running, more running, and some weight lifting.